I am married having two kids ..wife left my home after some fight between us and not willing to come back .I tried many ways that she come back but she is not..but i didn’t go to in laws home to bring her back..actually I have no problem to go there but she never answer any of my effort we are living alone outside Pakistan and she left to Pakistan..
Now the fight is no more between me & wife it become between fight between two families..blame game start from both side..
"To be honest I don’t have any value remain for my wife.".but as a mother of my kids I am ready to accept her..I told to my wife/my in laws that as a result of all this ,the only loser will be my kids...she knows that I love my kids she is trying to black mail me for her sick plans and demand ..
I heard from some common relatives (may be not true) that my father in laws is asking about separate home in Pakistan near in-laws home + cut my ties with my family(parents) + financial support (may be) + asking me to move to Pakistan ,
if I analyze her attitude with me /with my parents I always think that whatever she is doing in all well planned
when I asked my wife/in laws why she is not coming back they say come here and then talk..
Me, My parents are in tension cause of all this. My father is asking me to go to Pakistan and try to solve issue as a last option, he is saying accept what they are asking ,it will save your home.
I don’t know what to do now..whether to go there or not? if i go what should i accept?
hopefully she got agree to comeback and all things got settled, otherwise I don’t where should I go child custody ,2nd marriage ..
there will be many person who are aware to these sort of problem..I am looking for sincere advice ..for me the life of my kids is the most important .
do pray for me at least ..
Assalam alaikum:
Your problems can be solved it is a matter of attitude
Bhai Sahib.........
simply change your attitude...
right now it is very negative towards the "Mother" of your children.
You Said: "To be honest I don’t have any value remain for my wife.".
saying negative things about the Mother of your Children
the children who you cannot live without!
My friend you need a Major attitude adjustment!
Insha Allah the fasting during the Holy Month of Ramadan will give you some clear thinking
an adjustment in your priorities..........
Do not listen to others...........they do not count!
Yes your Wife and children is what counts!
remember that!
The sentence above that I underligned.............
when you realize is very wrong attitude
is when you can start your relationship again!
we are all praying for you!