Re: Looking for advice
mhensley 
salaam!
i am french convert, and know quite a bit of pashtoon culture! spent some time in peshawar, have friends there, and my future husband is also pashtoon!
wh don’t women go to masjid? cause you may know that pashton culture is a segregated society! it means man and women are appart in public places!
for example there are separate sections for men and women with children in weddings or other soial events, in traditional pashtoon culture…cause most women hide their faces from public views…
in traditional families, like the one of my loved one, women live in heart of house, and guest, if males, only enter reception area in front of house, and NEVER interact with females of the house. They never talk with male outside family…and this would be considered as an insult to the family reputation. A nice women is expected to keep her hair covered even inside house i front of other family members…except strist intimacy of husband/wife room, or female only meetings!
all of this may not be that strict in your husband family…it’s really up to them, but it’s the traditional background and as a western lady, segregation btw male and females is the most difficult part, because in west we do not make difference btw genders, we go to sshool together, work together, are friends together…and that seem innocent to us! BUT to them it’s NOT! being with a stranger male is suspicious, and a big shame! you should be aware of it…and be ready to dump all male friendship as soon as you enter pakistan, for the sake of your inlaws reputation.
finaly as a nice pakistani friend told me recently: it’s easy for us in west to go to pak once a while, cause it’s not expensive for us…BUT if we wer in pakistan, we would not be so free