I read a book given to me about how wives should look after their husband
This book was handed out by a member of the Tablighi Jamaat
“When your husband comes home, u should ask him if he is hungry and give him food, then press his feet and arms” (that means massage).
“Your husband is on a similar level of respect as your father, so you must never let your husband serve u food, if he does try to serve u food, u must say no and serve it to yr self, cos your father would never serve u food, but u must always serve your husband and not let him serve himself” (What happened to “Ladies first”
“U should not waste your husbands money and buy useless things”
“Manners on sitting in a gathering… U sit in one place and not move around / fidget, and you should not do things like clean your nose. If u need to clean your nose or similar, you should try to wait or quietly leave and clean your nose then come back”
“In gatherings, u should not be the first to start speaking” — Er, If everyone did that, then no one would talk!!!"
What it boils down to is:
U should be a lifelong slave and servant to your husband, when he comes in to the house u should take off his slippers, tell him to put his feet up and attend to his every needs so he never lifts a finger and turns in to an absolute couch potato… And u shouldn’t speak.
Its SOOOOOO funny, written by an Indian tablighi man, when u read it u will see it applies to Indian culture. Even got manners in the in-laws house. i.e. U should do everything yr mother in law says and have no life of your own. He has no idea!
For those of you who wish to read more I’ll post the name of the book and author tomorrow
Are you up to it. I have a job application form that you can fill out. This book should be read by all women, regardless of their religion, ethnic background.
This puts kama sutra to shame.
Okay I agree to the first point, giving him food if he's hungry and massaging him, and not wasting his money (hey u know those sexy clothes r really for HIM!), and not picking ur nose.... But okay, what's wrong with him serving food or you bein the first one to talk??
oh my god!!!so thats what tabligh jamaat is teaching these days…man if all women started accepting all this then life wud be easy…wat else do they teach “always let your husband do whatveer he wants…let him cheat on u but u never cheat on him because husband is like father noooo” i wudn’t be surprised if they taught that
Ahhhh, and it all becomes clear. I have never been asked so many times to massage someone in my life til I married this man. I didn't realize that it was a duty, I have been a very bad wife indeed :D
Please post book and name of author. Would like to find a biography on the author. I always wonder about educational background with books like this.
interestingly enough there is no reference to Hadeeth or Quranic verses while listing these rules out! LOL! The scary part is that people actually follow such trash!
All the men who want to join the Tableeghi Jamaat sign on the dotted line
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There Tablighi Jamaat is growing in the uk there was aconference of about 7000 (they say)people recently in Dewsbury.
and apparently they have conferences of upto (they say) 3 million or so in paks.
but in all fairness I think that the above book was just something handed out to the members Im sure that if they read these things they'd reconsider what the litrature they provide.
:D the book sounds funny but it's sad that that's what the tablighi jamaat people teach. maybe a better approach would be to enlighten people about the rights of both the husband and wife (backed by examples or proof from the sunnah of course).
Mohsin.... please .....this was to be taken lightly.
ill post the book and author as soon as i can.
However Rukhsarbibi is right, one assumes that peopel of little knowledge will look at it and say this is nonsense but some people may consider it the truth and the poor women will have to feed and massage theyre poor husbands because they think they will get to heaven this way.
Having said that the tabhlighi Jamaat do encourage their members to cook and clean forthemselves because thats what the Prophet SAW did...
Thats why I say that books like this MAY not be proper Tabhlighi material.
Minah, stop banging your head against that brick wall ... you'll damage the wall!
lol, minah, unfortunatly you have to rely on helpful advice like this in order to keep your husband...you wouldnt want him to look for wifey no 2 or 3 or 4
The Tablighis are not all bad, they have changed views... soem for the better AND they can take your dear darling hubby away for forty days or so... to give you a break!
interestingly enough there is no reference to Hadeeth or Quranic verses while listing these rules out! LOL! The scary part is that people actually follow such trash!