Long distance?

Boredman · September 14, 2010, 3:40am

Re: Long distance?

oh spoko! I went through this exact same thing a few years back (Im now getting married to this guy InshAllah!)

The way that I dealt with it…because I was always the one calling first, I was waiting on MSN for hours, I was always texting…I used to get really hurt because it wasnt reciprocated. Then I realized, he doesnt appreciate me, because I am ALWAYS there…he doesnt get a chance to even miss me because I am always calling/texting/emailing/waiting on MSN. So I backed off. That doesnt mean I left him, that just means, I made myself less available. Instead of waiting on MSN for hours, I would go out, and then when he would call or text and ask me why I wasnt on line, I would tell him that I was out and couldnt come on line. I wouldnt make a big deal out of it (its hard to pretend like its not hurting you, but you have to back off for a while!), and I would do this often, so he would realize that “hey, this girl isnt waiting around for me, and if I want to be with her, I have to make the effort too, and chase her”. Same thing with texting…I would wait for him to text me first (I stopped texting first), so that he would realize what it felt like when I had to wait for him. I would wait for him to call me first (and if he needed me to call him back because he didnt have credit or a calling card, then I would, but I wouldnt call first, until either he called, or asked me to call).

And trust me, this is not about playing games…this is about being less available, so that he is not taking you for granted. Just make yourself less available to him, so that he can realize that you are not sitting around waiting for him.

It worked for me within one week! Good luck!

nice !! i think this will work