Re: long distance marriage
I don’t think he is worth it.
If your husband is of sound character, class, hardworking, honest and then your marriage gets tested…I support the sacred bond of marriage all the way. But if your husband takes away your peace of mind, makes you insecure, possesses bad character and does nothing on his part to make it work…I don’t.
Demesne, taali do haat se bajti hai. She cannot fight this alone. If you have both people admitting there is a problem, apologizing and working to mend their ways…you have yourself a workable scenario. However, if you ONE person trying their best and the other just antagonizes them…you have yourself suffering. And since when is marriage about suffering to convince the other of your worth? Why does our culture define marriage as this punishment for women? Since when does Islam encourage this? It doesn’t.
Divorce is the least likable in Allah swt’s eyes of the things he has allowed. That does not mean he has forbidden it. It means he gives you the right to be happy. So when He gives you life, gives you the right to be happy but you keep going back to a man that makes you unhappy…exactly how much qadr do you have for the blessings He has given you? For the work your parents put in to raise you, their desire to see you happy, etc?
All that work and they don’t even get to see a content son/daughter. What a waste.
To the OP…it upsets me when I see girls think they can’t leave a marriage because of their fear of being alone. What is wrong with being alone? Being independent, strong, paying your own bills, standing on your own too feet? Marriage is a blessing…with the right person.
Being alone is much better than living your life in regret and wishing you had done things differently every single day.