Long distance engagement and Valentine's day

[rougedesi]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

I think this thread is now leading to a wrong discussion… Whats with calling someone joyless, mentioning it as a problem with “desis” or labeling it as a practice of Kufaar (yes this tradition emerged from them but just if you gift roses to your life partner/potential life partner and they become happy then i don’t think its a sin) ? I just asked a simple question because if your spouse is expecting something from you (which wont do a harm to even a single person on planet a bit if done or not done… in both ways) then though you have your own views… still you should find a mid way…

Respect for those who dislike the idea of Valentines day and for those too who want to celebrate it or want to do something special on that day for their loved ones. Live and let live.

[rougedesi]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

@CM

Please for the love of Allah and Humanity tell me you are female and you didn’t misspell rogue.

Why should i tell you?? Go read all posts in this thread and you will get to know .. and for 2nd part of your question, i would say keep on thinking

[CEO1]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

The idea of Valentines day is just a stupid one in itself. What it truly is a capitalisation by big corporations to make hefty profits from nonsense.

[CM]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

@rougedesi

Why should i tell you?? Go read all posts in this thread and you will get to know .. and for 2nd part of your question, i would say keep on thinking

Yup you misspelled rogue. The gamer in me screams to slap you into next week. Its Rogue. Right now you are just a desi guy who wears too much ****ing blush on.

[Reha]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

@EDAL

Obviously there is nothing wrong with giving a watch, flower, gifts, roses etc..to your husband/spouse, Islam encourages this. By all means purchase lots of chocolates and gold for your wife.

However, what we must be careful about is following kuffar symbols and religious practices. Symbols can be significant.

None of you would walk down the street in a Western city with a Swastika on your shirt, even though its just lines, it has a powerful meaning behind it. If a person didn’t know what that meant, you still wouldn’t excuse them and would tell them to remove that shirt.

Also if you are a practicing Muslim you will not wear a T shirt which honors a Hindu deity, you just wouldn’t do that, however that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with wearing a T shirt.

Same goes for Valentines day, its a day based on a catholic saint who was killed. Later this person was honored by the pope. These are all powerful religious symbols, and Muslims should not participate in such an activity.

By celebrating Valentines, you are indirectly honoring that particular saint and their memory. Why even risk such shirk? You are basically paying homage to St. Valentine.

As Muslims we don’t believe in Catholic saints or the pope. Further as this holiday is celebrated in the West, it honors promiscuity and haram relationships.

So I’d advise any Muslim reading this to boycott this silly holiday. Pick another random day and do something special for your wife/husband.

Stop wearing western clothes. Its a symbol and unIslamic clothing. Stop eating with knives and forks.

Better yet -

Stop living in the Kuffar’s country.

[rougedesi]

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@CM

Yup you misspelled rogue. The gamer in me screams to slap you into next week. Its Rogue. Right now you are just a desi guy who wears too much ****ing blush on.

You are certainly a “cyber intellectual” with no brain, and people like you make my day …

[aishi]

Re: Long distance engagement and Valentine’s day

I’m in the uk and my fiancee is in Pakistan. And we had a small argument over this. To me not getting a gift on our first valentines is a bit depressing. Really I never used to agree with valentines and believe that love should be shown everyday not just on 1 specific day with presents. Well anyway I created a fuss because tbh I started feeling sorry for myself, I thought if he does not get me a gift then that must mean he is very tight with money! I do believe you should send her at least something small so when she gets asked by friends or family what she got for valentines, at least she can give an answer… You dont have to say its for valentines, just say you got the gift to show how much she means to you and want her to keep smiling. Nobody wants a tight husband and I believe that is how you are being portrayed. Also let me know what you decide to do! Fingers crossed I get something sweet

[Hulahoop_Queen]

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If doing smtng so small like sending a little present will make her happy, then why not?..doesnt matter if its V-day or whatever day..if you think such a small act could make someone else really happy, then there is no point in thinking further.