Ok, you meet a great guy. He seems pretty balanced.
But then you find out his whole extended family, and I mean all of them - both mom and dad’s sides - are super conservative, burqa walis with niqabs, and in fact he hasn’t talked to any of his lady cousins since they were like 12, because he is their na-mehram, and he also doesn’t know what they look like.
Would you marry into such a close minded family, although the guy is ok, (and so you assume the parents will be ok)?
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Can you combine all your questions, and then start a thread?
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is he good enough that you take burqa for him?
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@ethan haha
After reading your threads PCG ,one would be ready to marry anything that atleast looks like a human
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Ok, you meet a great guy. He seems pretty balanced.
But then you find out his whole extended family, and I mean all of them - both mom and dad's sides - are super conservative, burqa walis with niqabs, and in fact he hasn't talked to any of his lady cousins since they were like 12, because he is their na-mehram, and he also doesn't know what they look like.
Would you marry into such a close minded family, although the guy is ok, (and so you assume the parents will be ok)?
O_O
Dont worry 5amra.
Its just pcg being pcg. She can say what she likes here. hey lets all look at the closed minded conservative guy and have a laugh at him because he chooses to live his life the way he does.
LOL I got one for you pcg. Yourself.
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well most of the guys like you described all look hunky dory on the outside when you talk to them and go on dates and stuff but when you marry him and become his wife, he probably won't let you leave the house. Happened to someone in extended family
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well most of the guys like you described all look hunky dory on the outside when you talk to them and go on dates and stuff but when you marry him and become his wife, he probably won't let you leave the house. Happened to someone in extended family
Why would someone deceive themselves to be a liberal when they're really conservative?
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That's how they bag the girl who has all the things that they want education/ exposure/ know-how/ hot etc and all the qualities that they want but then they will tame them and encapsulate them in their home only for themselves. Go figure!
That's how they bag the girl who has all the things that they want education/ exposure/ know-how/ hot etc and all the qualities that they want but then they will tame them and encapsulate them in their home only for themselves. Go figure!
Couldn't have said better myself
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Yeah but then you'd see other red flags when it comes to those personalities.
There are some normal people born to wacky families, and they just are different, and you can tell because they don't socialize much with their extended family.
I have some extended family (like a parent's aunts/uncles and their families) that are pretty backwards. We're not even in touch with those people anymore. Doesn't mean I'm gonna trap anyone in my home, like a spider. Eeks.
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What about the conservative guys that r born in the normal families. My husband is much more conservative then the rest of his immediate family. He apparently was really influenced by a close relative during his formative years and took on a different school of thought than the rest of his immediate family. (A relative who later on went to marry a gori , who did not convert, and does not follow Islamic dressing guidelines. Now this is another thread. How desi guys r totally different if they have a desi wife, and so much more accommodating and less anal if they have a non desi wife)
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Sasha that is a great topic, discussed before, but a good one anyway. Bring a gori into the picture, and their tune totally changes.
The issue is does the extended family and their idiosyncracies play a role in your decision on the rishta. Those will be relatives of your kids.
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It does if all those relatives are going to have a say in ur life and the way ur children r raised. If not then it doesn't matter. And anyway it would be too difficult to analyze. Bring extended family judgement into the picture and ur never going to be able to finalize a guy. Better to follow the KISS method. (Keep It Simple Stupid).
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Women in his family wear burqa, disgusting.....
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Don't be jealous diwana.
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I married a girl from that type of family. No regrets here.
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Jealous of what? 
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I married a girl from that type of family. No regrets here.
^Doesnt count. Guys either tame or mold (the girl) to their liking. Either way they mostly get what they want. You get the line "Aapkay ghar Mae hota Hoga aesay, hamaray ghar Mae nahi hota". (And this is after u came from a house where ur parents said, Jub shadi ho jaigi to Jo marzi aaye karna. Hum kuch nahi kahaingay)
