Should a girl along with husband live with her in-laws after marriage?What are the the pros & cons of it?
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Ideally, if possible the girl and her new hubby should live alone, at least for the 1st few years to get adjusted to each other and develop an understanding together. Then if the need be they can live with in-laws if that's their plan. Also if a couple does plan to live with in-laws, they shoul dhave their seperate "private" space, if feasible. So they are living "together" BUT still maintain their privacy etc....
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No she should live with her husband. :)
I mean she along with her husband should live with in-laws? 
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^^ Oh in this case you have to go and rephrase your question :@:
Done! 
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WF u r thinking marriage a lot . shaid some good news is waiting :)
ok if a girl is very compromising n giving n can take pressures & taunts with a smiley face n don't get hurt easily she can try that. if she succeeds good for her. if not she might hav hard time convincing her partner to move out.
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^^ I agree. WF your next post should be HERE with all your info. Chaloo shabash.
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They would have more fun living alone. You get to do so many exicting things that you couldn't whilst living with inlaws!
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Depends on individuals I guess, I lived with my husband for the first few months and then we moved to Pak for a year so lived with in-laws. I think that helped me bond with them better but this situation could be a total reverse depending upon the individuals.
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Ur'e one lucky girl Masi Museebtay...true it depends upon the individuals. before marriage i didnt have any problems living with in-laws...it just didnt occur to me how different it would be living alone. Now that i am married i feel my life would have been much better in my own space....we have issues out of really no issues, n it's a waste of both time n health burning over them. what drives me insane is the unnecessary interference and complaints!
Since i wish mine were better, i still believe that a couple can be happy living with in-laws depending on how accomodating and understanding they are, but invariably both would still feel the heat of being in a joint family. So yes, if one can a separate household is a healthier choice.
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What about having your own privacy? Like everytime you go to your room to be with your Husband, everyone will wonder how long you will be or what you are doing?
What if you just want to roam your home with your towel on and whip up a nice dessert to eat with your Hubby?
Its highly recommended not to live with inlaws. Inlaws may be good but that rarely happens.
MILs love keeping an eye on DILs as to how she is keeping and taking care of her son . She will never check how well her son is taking care of her DIL. All of us believes what our mom says is right and my experience is MILs are very good at brainwashing sons against their wives.
I am sounding too negative but that was my experience has been and our great religion Islam also gives the right of privacy and a seperate living space to wife , a husband cannot force his wife to live with his parents it is his duty to give her privacy and a decent place to live.
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Iggle that's where the concept of pros and cons comes in. =)
Yes fingirl I've been lucky mashAllah.. I always say if you can live in peace, live together otherwise there's no point. I mean it's better to live at distance and meet each other in a civil manner rather than living together and hating each other's sight.
Iggle that's where the concept of pros and cons comes in. =)
Yes fingirl I've been lucky mashAllah.. I always say if you can live in peace, live together otherwise there's no point. I mean it's better to live at distance and meet each other in a civil manner rather than living together and hating each other's sight.
Lol! :)
There’s still time to do that :@:
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a gal sud ideally marry a guy whose parents r dead . thats "IDEALLY" neve happens.
ok next comes the guy who lives in a different country frm his parents, atleast different city. even if thats not possible n if given a choice a gal sud always always opt 2 live away frm the in laws.
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as our Prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h said " The inlaws are death".
personally i wouldn't want to if i can afford it unless his parents are old and unable to care for themselves.
If the inlaws are too interfering I would say husband and wife should live seperately. In my case I wish to have a seperate home.
I’ve never heard of this hadith, do you have any source? 