living together

[ZareenKhan]

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@NomiCA

^why judge?? they might have their reasons..

like what? :halo: that’s a stupid reply to an equally stupid topic .

@Naabigh

Sorry be being blunt - but when you dont care about the Allah and the set of codes he has given … why bother about his creations’ responses and feelings … let the society and people feel and say what they want - who cares

If they are no options or you cant see them opening for you at this moment - then go for it !

:k:

[Reha]

Re: living together

Ummm...why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?

Other than that...no problem.

[ripplesaround]

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@mama_ki_dua

If the Op elaborates more people here would be able to guide more Nomi bhai. I'm sure the OP can specify more.

I wasnt really planning to bare my soul here but I guess I need to vent it out somewhere. Basically I have been with this person for the last four years but yes it feels like forever! I havent moved in with him officially, but we have been living together since a year or so. Yes,yes,yes I'm aware its not right according to Islamic laws and I'm committing a horrible sin, though i'm not a religious person really. ( spiritual yes). I moved in for right reasons according to my gut, to make it easier for myself to care for him. Marriage wasnt a option back then, because he simply didnt want to marry at that time. And I never asked.

Now after one year, the person is getting married to someonelse. in 3 weeks. He's got a new house etc. So basically I would be living with him though he wont be around all the time anymore. (hehe) Maybe that would make some people here feel better. And, would that be a little more acceptable?

[Niksik]

Re: living together

SO you invested your time to care for someone who is marrying someone else?

[Naabigh]

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@Reha

Ummm...why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?

Other than that...no problem.

I am sorry but the milk doesn't come free either - there are grocery bills , house rent , Shopping Bills , Odd outing expenses attached with it ....

Free Aid ( Milk) often comes with AIDS .... so you know what I mean :)

[hareem01]

Re: living together

@Niksik

SO you invested your time to care for someone who is marrying someone else?

and he'd be still around sometimes? that sounds like cheating.

[inspiron]

Re: living together

wait im confused....so you are going to be the 'other woman'?

[Naabigh]

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@hareem01

and he’d be still around sometimes? that sounds like cheating.

Sheesh - it is called the art of convenience

[Naabigh]

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@inspiron

wait im confused....so you are going to be the 'other woman'?

No he is going to marry other women - the package comes with casual visits paid to her - Mostly when his wife wont be able to perform due to the time of the month ..

Lucky dawg I must say ...

Anyway I am just paranoid for nothing - None of me business

/log out

[Enigmatic]

Re: living together

umm...so this guy gets to live with you - no strings attached ..and now he's getting married to somebody else but he believes that he could still come over so now he plans to cheat on his wife-to-be too...

i really feel sorry for the poor girl and sorry for you too - sorry for you because you are knowingly going to be his mistress/keep (isn't that what the non religious gora people call it too...something nobody is proud of :/)

[inspiron]

Re: living together

OP - there has to be more to this, like really? why have so little self respect.

[TLK]

Re: living together

OP never said that she has physical relationship with that guy .. stop throwing stones at her people.

OP tell them that you dont .. tell these gossip mongers that you dont sleep with him …

fuzool ke loug

[ZareenKhan]

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@ripplesaround

So basically I would be living with him though he wont be around all the time anymore. (hehe) Maybe that would make some people here feel better. And, would that be a little more acceptable?

Wow. How old are you? Are you really this “naive” or just pretending? Because honestly i don’t see how you can make such decisions of your life on your own and yet not know how “acceptable” or not they are! It’s definately a “hehe” situation for you, so why even bother how people online feel about this .

[princessjojo]

Re: living together

Acceptable to WHO?

[Naabigh]

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@TLK

OP never said that she has physical relationship with that guy .. stop throwing stones at her people.

OP tell them that you dont .. tell these gossip mongers that you dont sleep with him …

fuzool ke loug

well - if a guy lives with a girl for more then three years and does nothing … Then in my dictionary He is either saint or impotent

[ripplesaround]

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Yes and yes. And I am still head over heels in love with him! There's just this uneasy feeling that I might be hurting his wife indirectly.

[Amoureux_de_la_vie]

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@ripplesaround

I wasnt really planning to bare my soul here but I guess I need to vent it out somewhere. Basically I have been with this person for the last four years but yes it feels like forever! I havent moved in with him officially, but we have been living together since a year or so. Yes,yes,yes I'm aware its not right according to Islamic laws and I'm committing a horrible sin, though i'm not a religious person really. ( spiritual yes). I moved in for right reasons according to my gut, to make it easier for myself to care for him. Marriage wasnt a option back then, because he simply didnt want to marry at that time. And I never asked.

Now after one year, the person is getting married to someonelse. in 3 weeks. He's got a new house etc. So basically I would be living with him though he wont be around all the time anymore. (hehe) Maybe that would make some people here feel better. And, would that be a little more acceptable?

Wait, how would you be living with him if he has another house? Would he be visiting? Would he cheat on his wife?

[ripplesaround]

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Cheating? erm hoe?

[Reha]

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@Naabigh

I am sorry but the milk doesn't come free either - there are grocery bills , house rent , Shopping Bills , Odd outing expenses attached with it ....

Free Aid ( Milk) often comes with AIDS .... so you know what I mean :)

It does come for free because unless they're married...he is liability-free. Meaning, he owes you nothing and can bail at the drop of a hat with absolutely no consequences.

[Reha]

Re: living together

How would this relationship affect the OP psychologically?