Living in a joint family in North America

[libranrulz]

Re: Living in a joint family in North America

@Sehrah

Now you take a different tack, before you were attacking women who asked for modesty in their own homes as being hypocritical and going out partying and dancing.

And I don’t know what kind of hijaab wearing girls you know but in my community if a girl wears hijaab that includes cousins whether or not they’ve known them their whole lives… and that’s **most **of them.

And re read my post I said joint household are unacceptable, if the only reason you’re forcing your wife to live in that arrangement is because you don’t want to leave your parents on their own… or more likely you’re too scared to move away from home.

If you don’t have the money that tends to be a temporary arrangement, rather than a long term one.

I wasn’t attacking women or their modesty. I guess the kinds of hijabi girls that you know and the kind that I know are different and thats fine. We just know different kinds of people I guess.

If someone does a strict hijaab then I do agree that she would have serious issues in any kind of joint family system where there might be BIL.

I did re read your post and I do agree with you on that point so I am not entirely sure what the argument is there. I think if for some reason , be it financial or because of the parent’s needs, a guy can’t buy his own place then a girl shouldn’t be calling off the wedding. I think most people just dismiss the idea without even giving it a shot and understanding the guy’s position between his parents, his own situation and would be wife.