Krypton
February 1, 2014, 6:28pm
47
Re: Living away from home
Philo, this is a tough one, there’s a fine balance between being on your own and being with family all the time. On the one hand, leaving family and living on your own helps you grow as an individual, teaches you how to make important decisions, makes you your own person. You learn to do important day to day things by yourself. ** If you have the personality for it, you can make some real good life long friends, become who you were meant to be. The hard part is being away from family but being away from family doesn’t necessarily mean being alone.**
On the other hand if you stay with family, well, you are with people who you can count on (usually), who love you unconditionally (usually), and who have your best interests at heart. The bad part about never leaving family is that you end up like so many mama’s boys and girls who can’t do their own laundry, can’t fend for themselves, hell, I’ve met grown adults who don’t know how to balance their bank account and be responsible financially.
I left home when I was 16, as a result, I am EXTREMELY independent and do EVERYTHING for myself, to this day, being married 14 years, I do my own laundry, make my own coffee/breakfast, clean up my own messes. ** I DO feel that I missed out on some extra family time and while I would never admit it to her, sometimes I just want to be around my ammi :(**
:k: exactly how i feel
but I think once you get settled into your own lifestyle it gets easier…and you just have to suck it up sometimes because it might be better for the future, when you’re like in your 40s…don’t wanna have the regret that i wanted to be in my mommys lap so I didnt go after something and now im still struggling…etc.
and honestly if your family misses you enough theyll keep in touch too and if they aren’t bothered and it’s a one-sided thing then staying close won’t help either.
i think im heading towards a decision
