Please list here your advices, to newlly married couples for making thair life happy and problem free.
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Don't cheat.
Compromises are necessary.
Love and care for each other like you would for yourself.
Respect him and his family, just how you would expect him to be wonderful to your family.
Never go to sleep angry at each other, resolve your issues before so they don't carry over to the next day.
Words like sorry, thank you will melt him.
Tell each other nice things often, compliment each other.
Go out once in a while for some alone time.
Eat together, pray together.
He should be your best friend- tell him anything and everything, he's your life partner after all.
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^^^^everything Shay said plus
GIVE EACH OTHER TIME!!! make time for one another; go out for dinner, movies, make fun plans
feed one another--something very intimate and sweet:)
TRUST!! is crucial
Think of each other as gifts given to you from Allah Mian
read those relationship articles together: so many topics arise from these and u ask each other questions--even more bonding
know each others friends--go out with other couples:):)
PATIENCE is a virtue-know its cliche, but many times u have to be patient--everything is new for both of u
have activities that u both enjoy: also both should give each other some "me" time as well
if u have different things to do--try doing them in the same room (one reads, other watches tv--so u have each others presence)
cook together! lots of fun and an interesting way of knowing and understanding each others habits
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COMMUNICATE.
don't take each other, or your relationship, for granted.
work at your marriage- it is a job like any other but with much greater rewards and benefits for both of you.
work in tandem on the bigger issues like your families, your careers, education, children, etc.
understand, accept and work with each other's limitations. love the person your spouse is, not the person you want them to be. remember, change comes from within; so don't try to force it on someone else.
COMMUNICATE.
don't take each other, or your relationship, for granted.
work at your marriage- it is a job like any other but with much greater rewards and benefits for both of you.
work in tandem on the bigger issues like your families, your careers, education, children, etc.
understand, accept and work with each other's limitations. love the person your spouse is, not the person you want them to be. remember, change comes from within; so don't try to force it on someone else.
excellent advise
marraige is about compramise, and also do thing for each other, example making him tea, making his favourite meal, buying him little gifts evey now and then other little things like that as, inshallah you will get you reward form Allah also
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dont rely on books!
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Give time to ur partner
don't judge him/her on the base of looks/complexion... plz
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n yes compromises r ALWAYS there, rest may Allah helps both of u amin
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Sure, compromise BUT...
From the outset do NOT bend over backwards to mold yourself into someone u r not, just to please the other half, BECAUSE, after some time you will find this pretence too much of an effort and then revert back to your own REAL SELF, and the other half will think u have changed, u r not the person he / she thought u were and then they will get disappointed, then u will get disappointed too.
BOTH SHOULD COMPROMISE - A woman should NOT create a slave out of herself for her husband, she will get tired of it after some time and by that time the husband will be used to it and she will get bitter when expected to continue in this mode.
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agreed...plus just be there for each other.... thru thick and thin...it makes ur relationship much stronger if u have seen good as well as bad times together...
and never let ur ego come between the two of u.....drown it with ur love and care for each other.....
respect his friends and hang out with their family also.....
and dont pass rude or judgemental remarks towards his family....learn to accept them the way they are.....
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BOOKS - dnt help because there might be an issue the author forgot to cover tht u might need to deal with!
marriages take time -
patience, respect, compassion, compromise, unconditional love and acceptance are probably the core to any relationship.
*sacrifices happen.. so be prepared
*let him into your life.. share everything!
*make sure u take the time to get ready at night before he comes home from work. Itll show him how much u appreciate what he's doing and that you cant wait to see him.
*be as flexible as u can to adjust to changes, compromising is key!
*Take time to accept each others flaws.. no ones perfect!
*be affectionate.
*love and respect his family
*dont ever go to sleep with an issue on ur mind. Always solve it even if it means to stay awake all night and figure out a solution.
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READ The Nuslim Marriage Guide by Ruqaaiyah Waris Masood–highly recommend it!
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oh also, don't forget to make some time for yourself even after you're married! it doesn't mean you need to be joined at the hip! he's going to need his personal time with his guy friends, hobbies, etc., and you're going to need your own time too. this is very, very important!
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^ good one!
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"How to cook"
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i like to keep it simple and sweet.
** try to find a friend in him/her **
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^lolzzz
"How to cook"
Or get a cook. :p
Test each other's patience, step on that nerve, and things shall work out and if they don't, it is safe to go by what previous posts have suggested.
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Any other recommendation? My friend is searching for relationship guides/books that have an Islamic point of view. She is a newly converted Muslim and going to get married to a Pakistani guy.