I have heard many girls say that their fathers call them that they are like a son to them. What does this actually mean? Is this similar to when some women in families wish of having the birth of a boy?
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Probably this means that the daughter had served her parents so much and kept them so happy in daily life (by the grace and mercy of Allah swt) that they don't really feel that the presence of a son would have made their life even better
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Like a BOSS!
Sounds so much better.
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Your post sounds like…“only sons can make their parents happy”… :khums:
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It means their daughters have done the part of a daughter and a son...being their source of happiness and their support system in more ways than one.
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Then why not people say that their sons are like their daughters because they have done the part of son and a daughter… means why this discrimination…??
Sorry if i am geting away from the topic… may be i haven’t got the point actually :halo:
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Ive actually heard some people say that too. Some men who are not afraid to help out around the house and try their best to make their families happy…Ive heard it go both ways.
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Probably this means that the daughter had served her parents so much and kept them so happy in daily life (by the grace and mercy of Allah swt) that they don't really feel that the presence of a son would have made their life even better
Very well said!!!
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Ive actually heard some people say that too. Some men who are not afraid to help out around the house and try their best to make their families happy...Ive heard it go both ways.
Ohk that's good. I have seen many families where they don't have daughters and their sons help out their mothers in home chores.
To the topic..... i think some people think that son is necessary. so if they don't have... they start calling their daughters as their son. But some times these things have negative impact on girls mind.
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Like a BOSS!
Sounds so much better.
I showed ALL of my friends.
Like a BOSS, need to have a mosh pit with that on.
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I showed ALL of my friends.
Like a BOSS, need to have a mosh pit with that on.
Haha nice one! I love The Lonely Island!
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I have heard many girls say that their fathers call them that they are like a son to them. What does this actually mean? Is this similar to when some women in families wish of having the birth of a boy?
I don't think one must get anything negative out of such a statement.
The fact is that in earlier days and in many cases even now, it is traditionally the sons who (used to) take care of financial support and chores beyond the house, like taking your parent to the doctor, paying the bill, getting things done, getting the car fixed etc. while girls took care of homely responsibilities and were (and in some sectors of society, still are) unfamiliar with how to make things work in the big bad world outside.
So, saying something like that is not a reflection of their desire to have a boy but rather an appreciation of their daughter. Simple.
waits for someone to misinterpret and lash out
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I have heard many girls say that their fathers call them that they are like a son to them.
much better than father telling his son that he is like a daughter to him
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much better than father telling his son that he is like a daughter to him
so you mean...it would bring shame on the boy...?? to be called 'like a daughter'????
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No, I meant to say that usually sons play their role and daughters play theirs in order to give their share of happiness to parents. But if a daughter is sincere and caring she would fulfill both the roles. Just like when one parent is gone at an early stage, the other works hard so that the children might not feel the ‘kami’ of the other parent.
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What rubbish! Calling a daughter a son is a sexist statement. 
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I don't think one must get anything negative out of such a statement.
The fact is that in earlier days and in many cases even now, it is traditionally the sons who (used to) take care of financial support and chores beyond the house, like taking your parent to the doctor, paying the bill, getting things done, getting the car fixed etc. while girls took care of homely responsibilities and were (and in some sectors of society, still are) unfamiliar with how to make things work in the big bad world outside.
So, saying something like that is not a reflection of their desire to have a boy but rather an appreciation of their daughter. Simple.
waits for someone to misinterpret and lash out
You hit it on the nail. In places such as Pakistan this still holds true. Sons are needed to do the outside work so when a daughter is able to take that on parents don't feel the need to have a son because their daughters are like sons.
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Why do you have to be such a feminazi? 
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Sometimes parents do have sons but their daughters are still like sons to them. For me, my brother was the youngest and being the eldest child, I had to be a support system for my parents in all the good and bad times. They do call me their beta and say 'agar beta bhi hota tau itna na kerta jitna is beti ne kia hai' since we do see and hear the stories of sons being problem cases for their parents these days. So its not necessary that daughters are considered like a son only if parents don't have a son. Some situations force daughters to be the support system of their parents and families and parents start considering them their sons.
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I don't think one must get anything negative out of such a statement.
The fact is that in earlier days and in many cases even now, it is traditionally the sons who (used to) take care of financial support and chores beyond the house, like taking your parent to the doctor, paying the bill, getting things done, getting the car fixed etc. while girls took care of homely responsibilities and were (and in some sectors of society, still are) unfamiliar with how to make things work in the big bad world outside.
So, saying something like that is not a reflection of their desire to have a boy but rather an appreciation of their daughter. Simple.
waits for someone to misinterpret and lash out
Ok.... I can misinterpret this as well and lash out D but i don't want to get a warning from any moderator for ruining every thread lolzzz (As i am farigh these days and have nothing to do ecxcept lashing out :p)
Now i totally understand your point of view... As topic asked about only daughters. If OP asked for guys as well (like I have heard many guys say that their mothers call them that they are like a daughter to them) i think the responses would be the same, because when parents don't have daughters their sons help them out in home chores.
No, I meant to say that usually sons play their role and daughters play theirs in order to give their share of happiness to parents. But if a daughter is sincere and caring she would fulfill both the roles. Just like when one parent is gone at an early stage, the other works hard so that the children might not feel the 'kami' of the other parent.
Yes... now i understand this... I was just taking this negatively..... thanks :D