sucks when you are all alone & in other words say not married. You cant spend your whole life all alone when all people around you are busy in their own life & world even your brothers & sisters let alone friends. They will only spend 2 to 3 hours with you & then they walk into their own life. I want my own life too. I need someone around me 24/7 
. I know people will say try keep yourself occupied with different activities but for how long ??? How long can you occupy yourself with random activities when you dont want to do them & force yourself into & such random activities will end someday. You cant spend your entire life with such stupid activities.This is not what i want . Loneliness really sucks .All married ones are somewhat really lucky i must say. How do you guys deal with loneliness?
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^we should swap lives...you can have my backache as a bonus.
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^lolzzz… you are funny hareem 
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sucks when you are all alone & in other words say not married. You cant spend your whole life all alone when all people around you are busy in their own life & world even your brothers & sisters let alone friends. They will only spend 2 to 3 hours with you & then they walk into their own life. I want my own life too. I need someone around me 24/7 :( . I know people will say try keep yourself occupied with different activities but for how long ???? How long can you occupy yourself with random activities when you dont want to do them & force yourself into & such random activities will end someday. You cant spend your entire life with such stupid activities.This is not what i want :( . Loneliness really sucks .All married ones are somewhat really lucky i must say. How do you guys deal with loneliness?
I know MANY married people who are lonely and miserable. Marriage isn't a guarantee of happiness. Just because you have someone living with you 24/7, that doesn't means that you won't be lonely/unhappy.
Don't be desperate to marry just b/c you think it will magically take care of your loneliness. Its not about finding "a" spouse. It's about finding the "right" spouse.
And on a side note.....do you really expect your spouse to be with your 24/7? You don't want them to work? You never want them going out with their friends? Or have any time to themselves? No offense but I've seen quite a few marriages fall apart simply b/c one of the people in the marriage had this type of attitude (ie. they were so clingy that their spouse felt like they were living in a prison). This is not a healthy behavior in the long run.
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I know MANY married people who are lonely and miserable. Marriage isn't a guarantee of happiness. Just because you have someone living with you 24/7, that doesn't means that you won't be lonely/unhappy.
Don't be desperate to marry just b/c you think it will magically take care of your loneliness. Its not about finding "a" spouse. It's about finding the "right" spouse.
And on a side note.....do you really expect your spouse to be with your 24/7? You don't want them to work? You never want them going out with their friends? Or have any time to themselves? No offense but I've seen quite a few marriages fall apart simply b/c one of the people in the marriage had this type of attitude (ie. they were so clingy that their spouse felt like they were living in a prison). This is not a healthy behavior in the long run.
i am not saying that by 24/7 i meant most of the time.
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i am not saying that by 24/7 i meant most of the time.
So... 22/7 then?
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neither happiness is given to you on a platter nor it comes knocking at your door...so, you've to find it wherever it is, big or small...this way, you can conquer the world of happiness. :)
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20/7? :-/
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ok final offer
18/7
Going once..going twice..
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i am not saying that by 24/7 i meant most of the time.
Well.....there's 24 hours in each day. Let's say he works 8 hours a day at least...and sleep 8 hours at night at least....that's 16 hours. That leaves him with 8 hours. Out of that night....how many do you want him to spend with your every single day?
And also...if you think activities to keep yourself busy are "stupid"....what do you imagine you and your spouse will be doing every single day? There's only so much you can talk. You can only have sex for so long. So if you don't want "stupid" activities to keep you busy....what else is there?
Look....that above is really pointless chatter.......the BOTTOM line is that marriage will not guarantee you happiness. What or who gave you the idea that marriage will solve your loneliness? Trust me. I deal with divorced couples every...single....day. If you're not happy living with yourself....why should someone else be happy living with you?
I'm sure you've heard this before....but you need to work on your self-confidence. Marriage can be a wonderful thing if you do it for the right reasons and have the patience to wait for the right person. Rush the process or marry for the wrong reason....and afterwards you'll wish you could have the single life back.
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nvm.
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i seriously did not know what i m getting myself into… aakhir mene 24/7 likha kyun???
on a serious note there is difference in watching tv alone & with your husband. All activities are stupid to me because i m doing them all alone.
& what are those “right reasons” to get married?
& i m not desperate about marriage & not rushing into it either… i was just fed up of this loneliness around me… thats it
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Well.....there's 24 hours in each day. Let's say he works 8 hours a day at least...and sleep 8 hours at night at least....that's 16 hours. That leaves him with 8 hours. Out of that night....how many do you want him to spend with your every single day?
And also...if you think activities to keep yourself busy are "stupid"....what do you imagine you and your spouse will be doing every single day? There's only so much you can talk. You can only have sex for so long. So if you don't want "stupid" activities to keep you busy....what else is there?
Look....that above is really pointless chatter.......the BOTTOM line is that marriage will not guarantee you happiness. What or who gave you the idea that marriage will solve your loneliness? Trust me. I deal with divorced couples every...single....day. **If you're not happy living with yourself....why should someone else be happy living with you?
**I'm sure you've heard this before....but you need to work on your self-confidence. Marriage can be a wonderful thing if you do it for the right reasons and have the patience to wait for the right person. Rush the process or marry for the wrong reason....and afterwards you'll wish you could have the single life back.
man by nature is a social animal that is what aristotle said...... at the end of the day we are JUST normal "human beings" & that too weak ones......... we need someone around us to talk.... we cant deal with each & every problem around us sometimes............ i m happy living with myself but the fact is you cant live alone .......
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we need someone around us to talk.... we cant deal with each & every problem around us sometimes
I completely agree with this.
However, a person doesn't need to be "married" in order to have someone to talk to to help them solve problems or keep them entertained.
If your friends and family right now can't help you with solving your problems or with your loneliness.....a "husband" isn't going to be much different in that regard. Going back to my orignal point....having someone living with you and/or being "married" doesn't guarantee that you won't be lonely.
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I completely agree with this.
However, a person doesn't need to be "married" in order to have someone to talk to to help them solve problems or keep them entertained.
If your friends and family right now can't help you with solving your problems or with your loneliness.....a "husband" isn't going to be much different in that regard. Going back to my orignal point....having someone living with you and/or being "married" doesn't guarantee that you won't be lonely.
alright.....what else should be done then?
sucks when you are all alone & in other words say not married. You cant spend your whole life all alone when all people around you are busy in their own life & world even your brothers & sisters let alone friends. They will only spend 2 to 3 hours with you & then they walk into their own life. I want my own life too. I need someone around me 24/7 :( . I know people will say try keep yourself occupied with different activities but for how long ???? How long can you occupy yourself with random activities when you dont want to do them & force yourself into & such random activities will end someday. You cant spend your entire life with such stupid activities.This is not what i want :( . Loneliness really sucks .All married ones are somewhat really lucky i must say. How do you guys deal with loneliness?
& that is the only thing i have asked .....& you are doing nukta cheeniya instead :P.....
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I was just trying to get you to laugh a bit, no harm meant really.
Yes, feeling alone/lonely sucks. You can try to keep occupied, make new friends if you can, hobby, reading, etc, and somewhere along the way you’ll meet the right person for you. As already noted above, being in a dysfunctional relationship is a lot worse than being by yourself. Try and enjoy your freedom if you can. Embrace it. Try and do things that make you happy. I’m assuming you’re not going through any type of heartbreak where it’s a different reason for feeling lonely. Hope things get better for you.
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Don’t you have mother , father , dada , dadi , chacha , chachi , cousins , some friends of your age who are not married yet to give you company ?
To me you sound like you are hell bent to get married under the guise of ending your loneliness. Be patient and you will find your prince charming , do not rush into it.
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If your a goal of yours is to get married work towards it. Identify what is stopping you marring right now. Then work at improving these areas.
Dont do random activities that do not help you. Do something that will help you acheive your goal.
While doing these things you will be less lonely and helping yourslef at the same time and you never know you may meet someone to marry.
p.s. when your lonely come on Gupshup, what do you think we are all doing here? :)