Re: Life Partner Wanted: Prefer someone with a child or two…
I have no idea how you’re getting any of the above from my posts.
Can you please let me know which specific statement I made referred to him not being married before as an issue? Where did I even hint that this situation wouldn’t be any weird if he himself was a divorcee or widowed?
Can you also please tell me where I stated that having a biological child makes anyone parent material?
He considered all the possibilities of adopting a child with fetal alcohol syndrome and decided he doesn’t want to deal with it. He ran away from that idea b/c of all the challenges associated with it. Similarly, I strongly encourage him to consider all the possibilities of being a step-parent and see if he can deal with it. That’s all.
I’m quite baffled as to why you’re perfectly ok with him rejecting that first option…but absolutely fuming at the possibility that he MIGHT reject the latter. I understand that you feel this passion at the idea of a woman being rejected b/c she has a child. Does that same passion exist when a child is rejected simply b/c he was born with a serious medical condition beyond his control?
If this guy is sincere with his intentions then that’s great. But for the sake of an innocent child who will be effected by his decisions…he better know exactly what he’s doing before he does it. The mother/child doesn’t need to experience divorce for a 2nd time just b/c he decides after the fact that its too much for him to handle (and for the record, I’ve seen this happen several times).