Re: Life Partner Wanted: Prefer someone with a child or two…
Who said being a biological father or adopted father is any easier? Being a parent is never an easy thing. Biological, adopted, or step-parent…each situation has its specifics challenges. Considering the fact that innocent children are effected…adults should think carefully before they CHOOSE to become ANY type of parent.
Being a step parent can bring its own set of unique challenges that not everyone can handle (especially in cases where the biological father shares custody). Muzna’s friend doesn’t want to go through the hassle of IVF. He clearly has no interest in adopting a child with a physical or mental disability. Heck he’s only done his “research” on adoption with 1 single agency. From her posts, I get the impression that he thinks that he’ll just marry a woman with a child and life will be peachy without any drama or hassles. And this is a false assumption.
He has obviously thought about the challenges of adopting a child with a physical/mental disability and have realized that he’s not able to cope with it. Similarly, he needs to realistically consider the challenges of being a step-father and decide if he can cope with that. If he’s fully aware of the challenges and believes he can handle it…then that’s great for him and everyone else involved in the situation.
** Of course, before he goes on planning his entire married life…he may want to actually find 1 or 2 potential rishtas first.