Life Partner Wanted: Prefer someone with a child or two.....

[Paheli00]

Re: Life Partner Wanted: Prefer someone with a child or two…

@Muzna

I mentioned adoption and he said yes, the idea has occurred to him but the process is long and the children readily available through the Children’s Aid Society come with their own set of problems including Fetal Alcohol Syndrome etc. He doesn’t know if he would have the strength to deal with a challenged child.

Hmm…I hope he realizes that there are MANY other sources of adoption in addition to the Children’s Aid Society. PLENTY of children out there who’re physically healthy in need of adoption. Of course, I also have no idea what type of racial and age restrictions he’s insisting on.

LOL @ the comment about challenged children. Did you guys have a conversation about the challenges of having step children? In the event that the wife is divorced, what about women who share custody with the biological father? That can present MANY challenges in a 2nd marriage. Even if the wife is a widow, how will he react to the deceased husband’s family? Or will he expect the wife the keep the child away from his/her biological dada/dadi etc.?

Heck what about your friend’s family? Will they accept a divorced or widowed woman and her child without ANY judgments and with an open heart?

@Muzna

He didn’t say this out right but I got the feeling that he expected a divorced woman with a child to be more willing to compromise in her second marriage provided he was a good father and provider whereas the never-married women that he has been meeting now seem to be “super, high-maintenance” with expectations all over the place.

I truly hope you’re wrong about this.

I don’t think your friend has really thought this through. Being a step-parent isn’t a bed of roses and comes with its own set of challenges depending of the specifics of the situation. I truly believe your friend is clueless as to the challenges he may face as a step-father. It’s not something everyone can do. And for the sake of the child, I hope he’s not stupid enough to get into a situation only to realize that he bit off way more than he can chew.