I just got married April, and my life before marriage was soo much better than it is now…its kind of making me depressed. My husband is always at work and so am I, but I get to take time off here and there. he doesnt his hours are all over the place. Its not even that…Its starting to bother me that I make more money than him aswell… Our marriage life isn’t so fun either. We go out for dinner, and watch movies and thats it whenever we get alone time…
My life before marriage considered shopping, dining at fine restaurants, spending time with my friends. etc… All I worry about now are my finances. Our realationship while we were dating was so much better and upbeat than our married life…its sad to say I acutally regret getting married, I thought it would make my life better and exciting, but it did the complete opposite…
I dont know what to do…Have your guys experienced this after marriage?
why does it bother you that you make more money than him?
why didn't this bother you before you got married?
everyone falls into a slump when the routine of everyday life kicks in.....after marriage you don't have the liberty to act spontaneously anymore....you gotta think of someone else so that will have an impact that you will have to make a conscious effort to adjust to.
Why does it bother you that you make more than him?
Why cant you go fine dinning and shopping with your friends?
Why cant you guys do something exciting? Like a get away or something? Why can't you do some of the things u enjoy with him? why cant you guys budget so you keep some money aside for "having fun"?
Why cant you still meet with your friends and go out for lunch with girls at nice places? why cant you still shop?...i dont get it!
We are already on a tight buget, and I feel guilty if I spend money...I only have a few close friendz, I go out with her once a week. My other "so called" friends have changed or I've changed dont really know what happened...My husband is actually happy I dont even talk to him because he hates them anyway. I have no siblings which makes it wrose =( I feel so lonely nowadays my mom is like everything will be fine...
Its not fair that you have sacrifice your friends for your husband, I know its not the same but in my ex relationship i sacrificed my best friend for my bf and it made me so unhappy, he should allow you to have whatever friends you want!
Also at work are there any nice ladies you could do lunch with meet up with?
When you go out you dont have to go somewhere expensive just somewhere nice and relaxing!
Maybe find a hobby that makes you happy, like reading a nice book with a face mask on, cooking, painting anything!
Also next time your hubby has some time off plan a fun holiday?
Its not fair that you have sacrifice your friends for your husband, I know its not the same but in my ex relationship i sacrificed my best friend for my bf and it made me so unhappy, he should allow you to have whatever friends you want!
Also at work are there any nice ladies you could do lunch with meet up with?
When you go out you dont have to go somewhere expensive just somewhere nice and relaxing!
Maybe find a hobby that makes you happy, like reading a nice book with a face mask on, cooking, painting anything!
Also next time your hubby has some time off plan a fun holiday?
Its fine with those friends. They were always being rude to me and talked behind my back. Ever since they found out about my Husband and I. I think they liked him bc I was secretly dating him I only told my best friend. I didnt tell anyone bc of family and religion issues. Desi Religion Politics!!!
As for work all my friends are on maternity leave. =( Everyone else is old around here. I think I will have to find a Hobby. I do cook...but that gets boring bc I have to eat all the food I make my Husband doesnt even have time to eat he has an Obession with Hot Dogs...and they gross me out.
Hopefully things will fall in place soon I hope Inshallah...
I know it sounds a bit harsh but life is what you make it!
try and slowly be a little more proactive about things, things will fall into place inshallah but in the meantime try and make yourself happy by doing little things.
I know it sounds a bit harsh but life is what you make it!
try and slowly be a little more proactive about things, things will fall into place inshallah but in the meantime try and make yourself happy by doing little things.
When is your hubby next getting time off?
12am Thats when I am sound asleep because I get up at 5am....Yup I will try to make my life more interesting....
Thanks all for listening really helps alot when you express your feelings
when does your husband next get some leave as in for a week or a few days? try and co-ordinate it so you get some time off and take a little trip somewhere?
when does your husband next get some leave as in for a week or a few days? try and co-ordinate it so you get some time off and take a little trip somewhere?
We just went on vacation in June for 2weeks.... too early for another vacation..his next day off is a wed, and I have to go to work...
God Honestly I got tired of being with him after a few days....dating him was SO much better there was so much love and care, etc...now all we do is fight when were around each other or make smart remarks to each other...The biggest issue about our marriage are our Work Schedules...We work complete opposites from each other. I have the weekend off and he works the evenings. I wanna do couply things, and he wants to "chill"
You can do lots of cheaper things that dont cost a lot of money:
Go out for movies...thats usually around $20
A picnic...the weather is really nice these days and you can go to the lake and just relax there.
Do potluck events at your place so the cost doesnt add up.
Save a little bit each paycheck for some fun and travel.
Look for deals on hotels and travel on travel websites...you will be surprised at the deals you can get. I once booked a 5 star room for $15/night on orbitz.
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