ok, so i just got married recently, and before my wedding, all aunties including blood ones, would be desperate to know when i would be getting hitched, buddi jo jaygi, yeh wah wah wah, etc, and i was only 23. i still am. nd now the famous shaadi kab kari hohas changed tobachey kab chaiye, jaldi karo`…ive only been maried 3 months so offfffffffff and leav eme alone.
now i cant say these words to them of course,
so please do let me know how i can say something nice and witty to them to shut them up…i have already said i want to work first, before kids, i got really evilo stares for saying that…
Re: life is sh** enough and we get the mother of all aunties...
You know, I understand why you're annoyed but take their comments with a grain of salt. They are probably saying it with love. I ask my aunts all the time when my next cousin is coming but it's not that I'm demanding. I'm just excited about new cousin babies and excited that I have a new aunty.
Re: life is sh** enough and we get the mother of all aunties...
i think it was painfully obvious that your aunties were gonna do this.
why do you need to tell them anything about your plans. just tell them that you hope it will be soon and they should pray for you. then go about your own business.
I am 26 and I've been married for almost a yr now. I hear it all the time. I live my life the way i want to live. Just listen to them and do what you think is right. "suno sab ki, karo apni" That's what i do :) We are all happy this way.
have you not learnt anything.... if you tell pakistanis / aunties your plans you will get evil stares, judgements will be passed against you...or somewhere down the road you will be taunted for your choice to wait and get to know your husband....
Possibly the best answer you can give someone that will shut them up is : Jab Allah kee marzee ho gee then we will be blessed with kids. Pls keep us in your duaas for everything.
If they start asking you personal questions, turn it into something of an islamic lecture to them (most ppl do not challenge Allah's will or are too uninterested in hearing a lecture) ..... read to them a few verses from the Quran where Allah says: Be and it is or where He tells us that HE gives to those who He wills ...you will find plenty of these verses which tell us how incapable a person really is in procreation.....
This method is found to be 110% successful by almost all women who have used it to get nosey aunties off their backs....
Re: life is enough and we get the mother of all aunties...
Some of you girls get way too antagonistic with your inlaws over non-issues. This is a non-issue. They are excited about your future babies because they will be a part of their family. That is not something to feel threatened by!
Some of you girls get way too antagonistic with your inlaws over non-issues. This is a non-issue. They are excited about your future babies because they will be a part of their family. That is not something to feel threatened by!
the problem is that they don't want to hear that you have plans other than making babies.
if you were still young and had plans for your life before kids and you had some aunties telling you to hurry up and have children before you're too old, wouldn't you feel a tad pissed off? it's not their business.
Re: life is enough and we get the mother of all aunties...
But you are married. I am not. You are the tester! I think its a good phone conversation. If it all goes tits up, you can blame it on the poor phone line signal thing.
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What about when you WANT to have kids but ure not getting pregnant yet for whatever reason?or if you went through a miscarriage...how do you deal with women like this. some of htem can be major idiots and/or just totally annoying, but wihtout meaning to be.
ok, so i just got married recently, and before my wedding, all aunties including blood ones, would be desperate to know when i would be getting hitched, buddi jo jaygi, yeh wah wah wah, etc, and i was only 23. i still am. nd now the famousshaadi kab kari hohas changed tobachey kab chaiye, jaldi karo`....ive only been maried 3 months so offfffffffff and leav eme alone.
now i cant say these words to them of course,
so please do let me know how i can say something nice and witty to them to shut them up...i have already said i want to work first, before kids, i got really evilo stares for saying that............
help.
thanks
Just say, "bas dua karete rahein" or "jab Allah ki marzi huwe" ....something like this. They will get the message (if they are smart enough) ;)
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