life choices

[parissenoor]

can you tell me what you would choose if you had these two options to choose from, and no other…please don’t invent any other 3rd or 4th choice, just chose btw the 2… and explain your choice
1-loving(platonically) someone you can’t marry
2-marrying someone you can’t love

[Barbie_Girl]

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uffffffffffffffffffffff..........too difficult...........

[parissenoor]

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@Barbie_Girl

uffffffffffffffffffffff…too difficult…

zaroor, zindagi bahut mushkil hai… .tau is thread baccon ke lie nahin hai!

[GavriloPrincip]

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Both, marry the #2 you dont love for cooking and cleaning ansd making love thinking that it is the choice from question #1, and having the #1 for everything but the duties #2 fullfills.

[Barbie_Girl]

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You must feel connected either way..........if you think you are connected tou everything is all right

[lollypop_man]

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what is platonic love?

parisnoor, why would anyone marry knowing that they will never love the other person. that is just disturbingly wrong jee and unfair to the other person.

[parissenoor]

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@GavriloPrincip

Both, marry the #2 you dont love for cooking and cleaning ansd making love thinking that it is the choice from question #1, and having the #1 for everything but the duties #2 fullfills.

I said no 3 or 4 choice…but forgot to say not to mix the choices:p

[parissenoor]

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@lollypop_man

what is platonic love?

parisnoor, why would anyone marry knowing that they will never love the other person. that is just disturbingly wrong jee and unfair to the other person.

platonic love= love without physical contact, it can be either one sided or both sided…
it is called arranged marriage:rolleyes: ..example of possible reasons, avoiding the social stigma, or having kids…family pressure…

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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Number 2. With option number 2, you could try to change yourself to love the other person, given enough time.

[parissenoor]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

Number 2. With option number 2, you could try to change yourself to love the other person, given enough time.

I knew your answer maddy, you are a fan of arranged marriage! but what you fail to understand is that love is a feeling, not a logical reasonment:rolleyes: poor scientist’s wife to be…

[lazy_daisy]

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no 2 ...someone you CANT love....

is nonsense...you need to marry that person and unless they are a serial killer of poor it is likely that you will find yourself drawn to them after a while

just like in Beauty and the beast

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@parissenoor

I knew your answer maddy, you are a fan of arranged marriage! but what you fail to understand is that love is a feeling, not a logical reasonment:rolleyes: poor scientist’s wife to be…

And I believe you can, in the long run, stimulate that feeling through mutual compromises.

[lollypop_man]

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parisnoor, thats easy go with #1. love if u can find it is a once in a lifetime thing.

[MizzSilk]

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i pick none, both of those would just end up ruining ur life sumwhere down the line, u cant live with a person u dont hav feelings 4, if ur intentions are not 2 have kids an just live a life where ther is no family pleasure then that is an empty shell marriage.

[minah_pa]

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I choose 1... number 2 is not an option... if you love someone, you love them, married or not...

Number 2 is incomprehensible to ME, but I have seen it work....

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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I think number 1 is unworking for the overwhelming majority of people. Humans are physical beings, they crave physical expression in some way or the other of their feelings.

Number 1 would make people happy in the short term but in the long-term would lead to misery.

[parissenoor]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

I think number 1 is unworking for the overwhelming majority of people. Humans are physical beings, they crave physical expression in some way or the other of their feelings.

Number 1 would make people happy in the short term but in the long-term would lead to misery.

so when you talk about stimulationg the feeling…this is more of a physiacl concept??? that is not love maddy…seexual attraction is not love and will never be…you think a husband is just a sex toy?

[parissenoor]

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@MizzSilk

i pick none, both of those would just end up ruining ur life sumwhere down the line, u cant live with a person u dont hav feelings 4, if ur intentions are not 2 have kids an just live a life where ther is no family pleasure then that is an empty shell marriage.

as I said life ain’t easy..if you had only those choices…you would have to choose not to say i don’t want…the only who do so are those who suicide…

[parissenoor]

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@minah_pa

Number 2 is incomprehensible to ME…

to me too…so i’ll wait for an explanation

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@parissenoor

so when you talk about stimulationg the feeling…this is more of a physiacl concept??? that is not love maddy…seexual attraction is not love and will never be…you think a husband is just a sex toy?

No, I was referring to emotional attraction. People who don’t love each other can make comprises in their personality to enable them to love each other.