Re: life b4 or After Marriage?
^very good advice thnx.xx :)
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so summarize all advices n wht u hav decided now 
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i at work at the mo and meant to be working...:D will tell u later. but i would still lov to hear lots more.....:)
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Y .... dont u giv it a try ... :)
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^Why dont u give me some advice bachoo....
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Re: life b4 or After Marriage?
Aunty ap ub shaadi ker he lo :)
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well i just got shamed by a junior. thnx btw...:)
Re: life b4 or After Marriage?
Everyone has different views of married life. You should hope your husband doesnt think his wife should stay at home all day, cooking and cleaning if you are not comfortable with that role. I dont feel as if i am my husband's maid because he helps me out a lot, ALhamdulillah. I do the cooking and some cleaning, sorting the laundary, ironing etc. He vaccums and cleans the bathrooms and the laundary. We do grocery trips together.
I must say things were different in the begining when inlaws were here though. He helped me out still but i was expected to do all everything on my own (by the inlaws, esp MIL). And right after getting married, it was a very rude awakening since at home my mom took care of most of the stuff and i only helped her out. When its your home, then its different, you are responsible for everything.
That being said, my husband loves to fling his socks around. Used to make me so mad but now i just dont pick them up. He picks them up from the hiding places when its laundary time because he knows if he doesnt, he isnt goingto have any clean socks to wear.
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really wht else
Although I am not married yet I am all for seperate place for the couple ..
away from parents. I can imagine what my mom's expressions and her body language would be if she saw me doing things "that men are not supposed to do in the presence of their wives" like cooking, cleaning and helping around in other household stuff. :)
How come God forgot to talk about such a serious issue of "saas & bahu" in all of his Holy Scriptures? or may be he did't bother as he knew there is no end to it. :D
^:CareBear:
i see the thread has taken a turn in to living on ur own or with inlaws, i remember when my brother got married and we was soo close as a family, but as soon as the new wifey came he changed, and within a year of being married he moved out and completly changed…
if you move out on good terms it’s all good, but when u leave on bad terms e.g. if new wife and mill are not getting on, then everyone turns on the wife, and tht aint nice. at the end of the day guys are maa ki laadle…
getting back to the topic, i think Marriage scares me bcoz of the fact that ur not just getting married to one person, it’s the whole family. To complete strangers whom will judge me on my every mov…
how does one cope with Inlaws, work, husband, house chores etc…
can we really have it all, or do we have to sacrifice one for the other?
Hey CE. I think first and foremost, you might want to change your perspective on the entire situation, i.e. marriage and in-laws. May be from what you’ve seen other people go through has left this impression on your mind that your in-laws are complete strangers who will judge your every move. This kind of thinking is automatically scaring you and making things sound so much more complicated than necessary.
As for your second query, how does one ‘cope’ with the above: women have been doing it since the beginning of time. Nothing new.
Can you really have it all? I don’t know, is life fair? :halo:
You are used to it haina? 