Re: life b4 or After Marriage?
Everyone has different views of married life. You should hope your husband doesnt think his wife should stay at home all day, cooking and cleaning if you are not comfortable with that role. I dont feel as if i am my husband's maid because he helps me out a lot, ALhamdulillah. I do the cooking and some cleaning, sorting the laundary, ironing etc. He vaccums and cleans the bathrooms and the laundary. We do grocery trips together.
I must say things were different in the begining when inlaws were here though. He helped me out still but i was expected to do all everything on my own (by the inlaws, esp MIL). And right after getting married, it was a very rude awakening since at home my mom took care of most of the stuff and i only helped her out. When its your home, then its different, you are responsible for everything.
That being said, my husband loves to fling his socks around. Used to make me so mad but now i just dont pick them up. He picks them up from the hiding places when its laundary time because he knows if he doesnt, he isnt goingto have any clean socks to wear.