i dont know what to say 
but i hope and pray that everything will be fine betwen you and your hubby .
our prayers are with you
Anchal
seperated filign for divorce or just seperated..or just taking time off. I do hope that things get settled in your and the children's best interest, whether it is in the form of reconciliation or in the form of custody.
If thisis going to head towards a divorce, I suggest you look for a good attorney, look at the place where the laws are more in your favour whether it is US australia or even a particular state in US.
I know someone who was getting adivorce and she chose to move to a diff state and file it rather than file in in Texas because texas laws were not in her best interest in terms of alimony, child support, custody etc etc.
I was wondering about your absence for some time. I will not sayIam sorry to hear this because the several women I know who have separated are happy and are doing better than they were in their relationships. I wish you whatever is best for you.
Let me know if I can do anything.
be strong
ur joking rt!
Hang in there.. u got some great advice here so im not gonna repeat what they say but I hope that u make thru it .. an Inshallah whatever happes .. happens for the best...
don’t know what to say 
be strong
Re: Life after separation
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dunno what to do.. so used to being married
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Anchal, Is this for real ? I have been on Gupshup long enough to know you (and your two cute daughters) well from your numerous posts .
Infact I had been wondering about your absence........
Tell us it is a joke...
I don't know why are you all showing so much sorrow, shock and sadness over this. Divorce is as much a fact of life as marriage. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It doesn't change a person. If anything the person involved becomes stronger.
Showing sorrow isn't a very positive way of showing support to a person.
:-/
I am assuming it's a temporary one ...
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*Originally posted by funguy: *
I don't know why are you all showing so much sorrow, shock and sadness over this. Divorce is as much a fact of life as marriage. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It doesn't change a person. If anything the person involved becomes stronger.
Showing sorrow isn't a very positive way of showing support to a person.
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well..it is not something to be happy about either. ofcourse it doesnt change a person, n i hope it does make her stronger cuz God knows being a divorced woman in our society is not that easy.
yup..couldnt agree more. :k:
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*Originally posted by funguy: *
I don't know why are you all showing so much sorrow, shock and sadness over this. Divorce is as much a fact of life as marriage. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It doesn't change a person. If anything the person involved becomes stronger.
Showing sorrow isn't a very positive way of showing support to a person.
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i agree..
instead of being sad for her.. i think people should be more supportive and give positive advice.... indeed its a sad thing thats happened, but isnt it best that it did happen and now she can live a happy life?
Well, I don't know whether what Anchal has written is the truth...
However, Funguy, such instances in life does make people strong but I tell you what , they break you from inside( I am sure u know that). Not many people can cope and fight back....
As they say, everyone wants sympathy yet no one wants people feeling sorry for them...how in our case, showing sorrow is also part of our desi ethos...
funguy I am not sure if you know Anchal or not but shes an old member and if she is seperated permanently then she has everyones support here no doutb and we can only imagine what is going on in her day to day life.
However its like your brothers or sisters, there are some things you never expect to happen to them and thats why people are sad here for her. She had a great family and kids that everyone of the old guppies have seen and heard about. That not withstanding, for the choices she has now made, she has everyones support and I can only hope she has the strenght to go through all the problems.
oh my god....iv been on gupshup for long enough to know u, and no dont look at my registration date...This is just too shocking....
i cant believe it, how are u daughters....
still waiting for ur reply......
Anchal!! but you were like so in love with your hubby. Please dont give up hope on reconciliation.
Thankyou for the kind, supportive and caring replies everyone
Yes we are separated and yes its for real.
Its sort of hard to explain because there is or was no bitterness involved.
We didnot however make it an issue which helped us turning things to our best interest. We decided to keep on living under one roof so the children donot suffer from our decision.
Thats where the problem starts. Its hard to live under the same roof. Sometimes I forget we arent together anymore. I do have to get back to work, otherwise I would have written more.
But thanks for the kind replies
My inbox is shwoing me heaps of PMs. If you guyz dont mind can I take my time answering them one by one.
:-/ anchal baji, I kept coming in this thread with the hope that everything is alright..
don’t know what to say.. may the blessings of Allah be with you.. 
my prayers are with you..
Ditto^ I was also hoping that this was just a joke or something. :-/
My thoughts are with you Anchal…hang in there and I hope everything will turn out for the better Insha’Allah.