Re: Life after marriage
yes life changes after u get married and then it changes again after u have kids....just go with the flow
Most girls still tend to wait until they're married to start "living" i.e travel new places, try new expeirences etc. And please, dont give us this crap that we can still do all this before marriage...many of us still come from families where anything aside from school/work can be done "shadi ke baad."
So along comes the dude who does EVERYTHinG (traveling, hanging with freinds) basically enjoying his youth (nothing wrong with that btw). Marries a girl who waited til she got married to start doing all these things, and he's suddenly tired and wants to chill out. he had all his fun and now when wife wants to have fun, hes too tired.
doesnt seem fair does it?
i think a guy who is used to all this (traveling, hanging with freinds) will enjoy the same way with his wife too...
Re: Life after marriage
fanna u r right... i was listening the same thing the other day in a morning show when some marriage counselor was telling that wives should not attach their happiness or unhappiness solely to their husbands..instead they should have their own life too and they should make the husband realize that they can b happy without him too even if he is not giving her time or not talking to her properly bla bla, even then she can be happy in her own circle of friends or with different activities...
Re: Life after marriage
Not exactly looking forward to getting married anymore.
I know if people want to work, things can be better/improve. But who wants to have to resolve the stuff! There is already enough stuff that needs to be worked out.
^ No no. Not all marriages have so much problems. My cousin and her husband are very happy. She was born and raised in the US but has a good Eastern and Western balance and he was born and raised in Pakistan but moved to America when he was 18 and went to university here. They have an awesome marriage. Both of them work hard at their jobs but they take time to have fun. Since being married they have been to Pakistan,Italy and Rome. They are planning on going to hajj next year or the year after. They always do fun things together like out to brunch with friends or wtach movies in theaters etc. She and her husband have arguments sometimes like where to eat, what to watch on t.v., taking out garbage but those are normal for married couple. I am pretty close to my cousins husband and he said the first year was hard adjusting to the ways of his new wife and now he is used to it and loves her to death. This year they are not going on vacation but working very hard but I can tell they are genuinely happy. I know other couples like this as well and you don't have to go overseas to have fun or a happy marriage. There is this aunty and uncle and they always say cute things to each other and the wife always makes sure her husband ahs food etc and is happy at parties. But they have not gone overseas like other couples. I think they went to Pakistan a few times but that's it. Trips and money don't equal happiness. Even doing fun things in the backyard of your city can be fun enough which is what I am wanting from my hubs. Some have to work at their marriages more than others.