How important is it that your husband shares your interests, humour levels and is in the same age group as you? Is it better to look out for someone older, more mature and experienced with life, or is it better to find someone in a similar age group, with similar life experiences. Do these things really come into play after marriage, or are they trivial?
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My husband must be 53 years old, teach History, and already have a wife and three kids..
kinda specific i know, but he will be mine ;)
Are you talking abt opposites? or just the maturity level?
Maturity doesn't actually come with age...look at verizon
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^ it depends a lot on how you are raised.......sb older is often, the better option.....but for some, due to upbriging its the only one......i wud prefer sb my age however polished, mature and settled the older one is....as for interests and stuff, after marriage none of the singlehood interests remain, so i dont quite agree........even then there is such a thing as compatiblity and outlook on life, which is unrelated to things like humour, intelligence.
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My first husband was about 20yrs older than I was. This was good, I was in my 20's and he guided me in a lot of things. I loved him, but he was more someone I was in awe with. I miss him a lot now since he passed because his guidance was always true.
My current husband is 2 years older than I, I am 38 (I always say 40, easier to remember), he is 40. When I married him, it was nothing but love. We have some interests that are the same, some that are not. But we are both mature enough to know we can be seperate and together. Everyone needs space, especially when you are married. Work helps that way. I am the computer guru, he can do things with money I cannot even fathom. He barely types and e-mail is impossible for him, I would be constantly in debt if I was allowed to touch the money. We help each other this way.
I guess it depends on the person looking for a husband and which one you choose. I took my Mom's advice and looked for someone to make me stronger not weaker. It worked.
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hmmmn
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great post!
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Cat I like them "young"! Someone I can grow with, someone I kind learn new things with, and if he is young it’s always so much easier for me to handle.
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MM, lol I also have a thing for older men. I had a crush on my politics prof for a few years. I still get shy when I see him.
Seeing from Ghulail and Minah's posts, I see there are pros and cons. And I guess one cant really say that maturity comes with age.
I asked the question because I've seen some girls reject really nice guys on the basis that "hes too mature" or his hair is thinning and he just isnt hip and happenin enough.
Maj, surely you can share and grow old with someone a bit older than you as well? I guess some girls like the father-figure type, but my male friends are my age or younger and even though I get along with them fantastically, I would look for someone more mature in a life partner.
What do guys think of younger girls?
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You can all be mine. I am accepting applications for 3 more.
It will be competitive. No first come first serve. Strictly on merits.
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^^ 
bus kar oye, u give me the rumbles when I laugh.
These gurls are weird sometimes…
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cat, “maturity” i think we have a winner.
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she is gona be 1 year older. funny and cute and oh so tastey :yumyum:. she compliments my personality perfectly
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Age is not that important in my vieuw, Anywayz the age differend between me and my
husband is 6 yrs, he is 6 yrs older then me. About the humor level intrest uhmm they are kind of same but i can laugh bout him.
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as long as the girl's hot..age doesnt matter (ofcourse she should be atleast over 18)
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I know what you mean 
he is younger than me by a year and everything fits perrrrrrrrrrrfectly
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^welcome back kaki :p . i ment she will compliment my personality :p
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I think age is not important as long as one shares interests. It trivial in my opinion & experience.
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I know what you ment, and so did I
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Beauty is skin deep. Grace and character of the person make him/her go up the ladder all the way smoothly. A clear headed partner who realises what the institute of marriage means and how to make it work is the one you must look for. And I agree with few here who say age doesnt matter.
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If we assume that maturity comes with age, then I don't see why older men would want younger women unless they prefer less-mature women.