Re: Lessons you have learnt/The Dont's of Desi Weddings ...
but srsly, what do you guys expect when you invite everyone and their mother in law to your weddings?? obviously these people are coming more for the shor hungama and the opportunity to gossip and less out of a need to be "shareek" in your happiness.
Oh man…the music thing is what burns me up.
I’d say our weddign was pretty decent. No bratty kids, no stupid in laws (mine or his), no stupid people etc. I think there were maybe 100 or 150..i’m not sure.
But my biggest complaint has to be the DJ. My husband had burned CDs of music he likes, and I had sent him a list prior to the wedding…But apparently one person made a big stink about it and the DJ changed the music.
It would’ve been okay, except even my entrance song was messed up. I had wanted “Maula mere Maula” but he ended up playing the most hideous song i’ve ever heard. Some Indian techno remix. (nevermind how “MMM” was played at antoher wedding a few months later :()
I will never know what really happened to our music from that night, except that one aunty from my in laws side who complained about the music..and one of the worst songs ever was playing when i came in the room.
but srsly, what do you guys expect when you invite everyone and their mother in law to your weddings?? obviously these people are coming more for the shor hungama and the opportunity to gossip and less out of a need to be "shareek" in your happiness.
The reason for inviting ALL your relatives and their close relatives is to avoid fights with those who were not invited! These people will create a mess which your parents will have to deal with afterwards.... arrghhh
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wow all of you girls are so FULL of it.
It was a funny read, but in the end it seems like you guys are not going to be satisfied regardless.
Seriously, for my wedding, I just let everything happen on it’s own/ Guests were happy, we were happy, kids were happy.
You guys are laying out so many restrictions that you are forgetting to have fun at your own wedding.
:halo: although I must agree that some of your guests are total jahils 
^ lol , well said...
I think we should just plan every single thing as perfectly as possible and then about a week before the wedding, JUST RELAX!
Don't panic on your wedding day, just enjoy the moments, don't give a damn about the guests or their kids.
Atleast you tried to make everything work perfectly, even if your guests ruin it for you, which hopefully they won't.
I'm hoping by the time my wedding comes up, some manners will be in place!
Re: Lessons you have learnt/The Dont's of Desi Weddings ...
yes i agree that the wedding should let itself be carried out naturally....but come on its YOUR WEDDING!!! you of course have been dreaming about this day since you were born so we want everything to happen like how we like...and of course i know with desi weddings, nothing goes as planned, because our own family members are so psycho that day, running around, making sure everything is right with the guests, that sometimes little things that mean alot to the bride/groom are left out....so its better to take advice from other people at their weddings and maybe things will be a bit better in our wedding.
im glad i had my engagement in a hall, because i know i learned a lot from it that I can fix at my wedding :)
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The reason for inviting ALL your relatives and their close relatives is to avoid fights with those who were not invited! These people will create a mess which your parents will have to deal with afterwards.... arrghhh
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weigh one against the other and it seems a lot more weddings would be nicer/calmer and brides would be happier if extras were booted anyway. i'd rather tell them it was a more intimate wedding than invite them all and risk these headaches.