Lesson One on How To Not Be a FOB: Use of "Dear"

[Impulse]

Re: Lesson One on How To Not Be a FOB: Use of "Dear"

^ refer to my "fobs is the wrong word" thread :)

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Lesson One on How To Not Be a FOB: Use of "Dear"

Acha woh alag topic hai. This is about the word "dear".

[Impulse]

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@PyariCgudia

Acha woh alag topic hai. This is about the word “dear”.

just ignore them. full stop.

[wunderkind]

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@PyariCgudia

.. my father has never had the audacity to call any female “dear”. He only uses terms of endearment for family girls, not ladies he works with.
I don’t see how hard it is to speak in a socially respectful way. If you tell me its socially respectful to use “dear” in Pakistan, then I flat out wont believe you. You smile at a boy there, and you become a slut. A guy is seen talking to girls, and he’s labeled as doing awaara gardi. And you think “dear” is considered friendly and respectful in that country?

it depends on the spirit in which it is said. if it’s your college friend or colleague, or some Gupper addressing a post to you, then it’s not disrespectful because it is not meant to be disrespectful, because generally speaking ‘dear’ does not imply any disrespect. i don’t know why you’ve imposed such a taboo on such a harmless word. is that what you do when you meet people? analyse all the words they use?

@PyariCgudia

I know for a fact that I will want a guy to sit on a vertically-positioned sharpened pencil if he calls me “dear” if he’s not related to me

ouch!

[Femme_Fatale]

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@Sadiyah

Who says there’s no word for it in Urdu?

There’s piyaara/piyaari, âziiz, chahiita, giraañ qadr, laaDla, laal, muSHfiq, pyaarey, qaHet

hehe. now imagine a co-worker calling u piyari