hmmz..okies.. so in a few months or so, im gonna be “leaving” my home.. although its not hit me at all yet.. well it did a few days ago for like 30 seconds and i was like ohmygosh and it was only cus my bro and sis were being totally mean to me and i was whinging to my parents… mum reminded them that i was only gonna be around for a few months longer, so they’d better be nice..
how wierd is that huh? i mean.. u spend ur entire life with these people.. and it takes only a few moments for it to all change… how does one feel?
well, i aint going very far (undecided yet) but still.. this feeling of “ohmygosh!! no way!!”.. im sure most of u girls understand what im saying.. or feeling.. it just sorta hits u.. that one day u wont be sitting there after dinner with ur parents.. watching all saints or anything aussie (im a true blue aussie) and telling ur mum to shhhh
and on top of these reminders… u have to go thru the “u dont spend anytime with ur parents anymore.. ur gonna leave us in a few months.. dont have to forget us now”.. geez.. so my evening exercise has taken a backseat.. and im spending quality time with the parents.. (i think watching aussie soaps is quality time hmm)
neways.. how did u girls cope.. i mean what sort of things go thru ur mind?
I have been living alone since I was 19 and I love it, love it, love it. It was my choice to live alone and I don't miss living with my parents at all. I love my independance and not being accountable to anyone and I love running my own home and even though now my sister has moved in with me because of university, I am looking forward to living with my husband when we both get done with school.
i know i keep having little panic attacks about how im gonna be leaving my sisters especailly! i dont think im gonna be as close to them as i am now....im really really gonna miss our chats that we have every night! thats what kills me the most...u see theres four of us and i feel sad that im not gonna be part of the "group" anymore we're are like four best buddies and then its gonna be them three :( im gonna miss doing things for my father too i mean i might get annoyed but now i always make every effort to do things for him and i dont get annoyed when he asks me coz i know i really am gonna miss my home life..this thread is making me sad...:(
Hey SarahSplendour.. ummz im quite independant too.. but ive been living with my parents my entire life.. so im pancing big time.. i do love my freedom and my parents have given me that ever since i hit like 12.. but i adooooore the protective and concerned side of theirs.. i dunno, i guess it makes me feel special and jsut to know that they get worried.. its nice.. pathetic of me i know.. but i like..
Devoted.. I soooooooooo know what u mean abou the buddies thing.. aww i keep getting reminders about that too how im gonna completely change and stuff.. im pretty friendless neways.. but these 3 cuties of mine (the brats).. i duno what id do without them..
im totally looking forward to having my own place though and just ya know everything.. the change and the new beginning.. but im gonna miss my fam like CRAZY.. i mean they’re already asking me whether i wanna take “this” or “that” with me.. and i hate making those type of decisions.. im like… “na im gonna leave everything here so like i have two homes”
i recently fixed up my room with a new bed, and side tables and stuff.. sooo expensive and for months my siblings were telling me how i didnt need a bed cus i wasnt gonna be living there for very long… but my mama.. aww shes like “nopes… this is ur room… im gonna keep it like this forever”
aw thats so cute! im looking forward to my new life with my hubby inshAllah cant wait for all the travelling around and basically just spending every night and day with him! he keeps telling me not to worry coz although im leaving them Allah has given me a gift ie him im like whatever but inside i think aww wat a sweety!
my bro is already like im taking your room so iu dont think my room is gonna stay mine! bummer!
^ haha thats so sweet.. and very cute hehe.. I hope you have an awesome married life, Inshallah!
yeap, i can sooo hear my sis saying that.. good thing is, i painted my room a colour she dislikes very much.. so she wont be taking over.. im evil hehe.. but yeah shes always giving me this guilt treatment about my clothes.. cus man the girl is ALWAYS wearing my clothes and shes like "im only gonna be doing it for another few months baji.... then i wont have u anymore..." i want to like cry and yell at her at the same time..
I don't even think of these things. It's terrible really. I don't know how I am gonna survive without all the close people of my life. Sometimes you hide few things from yourself. Some questions cant be answered and this is in one of them. Oh sadzzz why did you start this thread
im sorry mindless… its just the last two days have made me think.. usually i scream back and tell them i aint goign anywhere, but i dunno.. i had to discuss this! i cant with anyone else… and since theres a few guppans going thru the same stuff at the moment, i thought why not… sorries mate.. apologies
^ No sorrys. I can understand your feelings. It's just that I am getting too emotional rightnow I know. Anyways take a chill pill buddy. Listen to shadi ke gaane and enjoy :) And for sukoon namaz parrho and dua maango boht saari. May you stay happy forever Inshallah :)
haha im too hyperactive these days.. i need several chill pills i reckon and aaaah shadi ke gaana... my siblings and my fav past time these days.. my bro is engaged too so we have a huge laff and mocking sessions about songs.. its all great fun..
I'll be glad to get the heck out :D
I know I say that now but whenever I go on lengthy vacations, I look forward to coming home. And now Home is going to take on a whole new meaning for me. It is going to be fun and exciting but at the same time a little scary :)
I think initially you will feel a little homesick but after a while you'll adjust into your new home.
I've met people from both ends of the spectrum, those who go to their parents' house and can't wait to go back to their hubbys and those who fly out of the country to go to their parents house and complain that their 'vacation' was only 8 months long!
p.s. I'm so excited for you Sadzz and I don't even know why haha
^ haha 8 months! geez.. arritey thats not a vacation! im lucky if i get 3 weeks off to some far-off land.. or even in the vicinity of my suburb..
yeah, there are days when i really wanna move out and hurry up the process.. like when im being told off for not washing the dishes properly, not folding my sheets right and u know all the daily saga.. but mum reckons im gonna miss it.. i bet i will… the sad thing is i wont get to spend much time with mum beforehand cus she’s gonna be flying to pak early… oooh nooo i cant believe im actually emotional yikes!
hehe.. aww thats so sweet of u… u know, everyones more excited than i am… im just taking it day by day.. just these reminders kill me though!
I t hink no matter what it will be difficult to leave your parents house... I always feel the most relaxed at my parents...no worries, no tension, no nothing...just chilled out and relaxed... I love getting spoiled when I go home, my mom cooks my fav food...I spend time with everyone...but after a few weeks. I just want to get home to Kasi..... after a while..and it will suprise you how fast...home will be with your hubby no matter what....
Think of it this way, your mother left her house, her life for your father...and that is the home you will miss......so inshallah you will have the same as well..
i so know what u r feeling, i get panic attacks whenever i think about leaving my parents. though my brother can't wait to get my room. i am looking forward to being with my husband n travel around the world but i am so going to miss my parents.
I think it wont hit me till I start packing. I'm not going anytime soon but the time will come and with me things don't usually hit me till that week or day before. Sometimes I do think about it, I know I'm going to miss everyone even though I cant stand them now. I'm going to miss my mom the most. I'm going to miss Michigan (I know its boring here, but it is home). I'm going to miss so-many things. I know things are going to feel soo werid only because I've never lived alone, or been anywhere without a family memeber around. But thats life.
and it was only cus my bro and sis were being totally mean to me and i was whinging to my parents… mum reminded them that i was only gonna be around for a few months longer, so they’d better be nice..
ummz im quite independant too.. but ive been living with my parents my entire life.. so im pancing big time.. i do love my freedom and my parents have given me that ever since i hit like 12.. but i adooooore the protective and concerned side of theirs.. i dunno, i guess it makes me feel special and jsut to know that they get worried.. its nice.. pathetic of me i know.. but i like..