i used to think like you too rukhsarbibi wheni used to get really frustrated i used to think to myself cant wait i get married so i can have my own place and get out of heer! but now i so dont want to i mean i dont but i dont! i suppose to gain something good you got to make these sacrifices! and everyone goes through this some time in their life!
I pray that all you peeps who are getting married that ALlah makes things easy for you and blesses your marriage with love and mercy forever and ever! and May Allah fill your lives with Barakah and make your nikkah a means for you both to become closer to Allah!
Hm already live away from my parents for the most part. I miss them now. Moving back soon enough. So, I can't really relate. When I left, I was really happy to leave.
oh kewl! how interesting huh? ive got family there.. hmm no actually they moved about a year ago to model town.. oh well
yeaps, i think we’re doing most of the shopping in lahore too.. gujranwala doesnt really have much.. but the main bazaar is really cool! i could sooo spend my entire day in there just browsing
Oh gosh dont even remind me of this, sadzz!! I have thought abt it a couple times and it brings tears to my eyes everytime. I am gonna miss arguing with my sis, i am gonna miss her and my bros hugs and kisses. I am going to miss talking to her about each and everything in life. I am going to miss sharing the wierdest littlest things that happen to me in a day. :( I am plainly going to miss my family alot.
My fiancee and i actually spoke about it today and he said thats one of the reet riwaj, his sisters had to do the same. But InshaAllah he said, he will take good care of me so I wont feel the need for anyone else. I dont know if that is possible but I really want to belive him.
^ i know how u feel… im gonna miss my sisters guilt treatments, her constantly bugging me while im on the phone, her mood swings.. my brothers attitude problem, his “blue moon” smile… his “bhara bhai-ness”… and im serious.. usually people would be thankful to get away from such crazy people.. but im gonna miss em!
aww its sweet of him to say that… Inshallah he’ll take care of u.. and if not, then he has a lot of people to answer to!
sadzz if you think you feel weird then dont' think that.. its normal natural for one to feel this way. I am guy so i can't really relate to what you must be experiencing but i shall tell you a dream that made me cry in the morning when i woke up.. (weird dream considering i am not even married yet)
What happened was that dream started with my little daughter (around 3 yr old) playing with me.. and we were having these coloring time and stuff and then time went fast and she grew old and then went to collage and all this stuff happened fast (in 1 dream) and then came the day when she was getting married.. just the thought of her leaving me and going away was enough to make me sad..
i was actually sad the whole (next) day .. it felt weird coz i am not even close to that stage of my life but yet i felt sad.. sigh.. so yeah I realized and really respect those girls who have to go through alot of change suddenly and the parents who have the courage to let go of their children..
PS: sorry if i took the topic in some other direction
^ aww thats beautiful.... ur gonna be a great father one day, Inshallah.. na didnt take it off-topic.. jsut made me realise what my parents must be or might be going through.. and here i am takling about my own feelings...
its funny ya know hwo parents are always on ur back about getting married.. and once ur about to, the tune changes...
I have been such a spolit kid. never did any ghar ke kaam during studies and since I started working ammi never asked me to help her out as I come home all tired. Now that I got a transfer I will move in a couple of months. I have been thinking about it ever since I got this transfer. Its gonna be real hard to be away from home and even though I am independent and all it is still gonna be hard.
I am very attached to my family and even though I have had my issues with them, it feels so awkward to leave them soon. I am going on a long vacation soon and already missing them. But I guess it is part of getting older that one moves on with life and move out too.
I am just worried about my parents' health. They are getting older and I want to be close to them....
Don't want to scare you further but it's as hard as it seems, possibly tougher than you imagine. I am in a different country so can't just 'pop down' and the thought of my parents, my bros, my sister kills me everyday. Infact my sister came over for two weeks, left yesterday but even though i'll be home in four weeks with her again...this thread brought back so much and makes me just wana sob my eyes out. I guess different people cope differently and depends on how far you are from the family, how much contact you have with them etc...but i found it to be the single most hardest thing i've had to face....thrown me headfirst into depression and the 27 days left to go home seem to be moving ever so slow...can't wait to be home :) Makes me appreciate them a hell of a lot more...and i don't know..cherish them yaar, sab ki bahut yaad ayegi tumhe :(
i know how u feel… im gonna miss my sisters guilt treatments, her constantly bugging me while im on the phone, her mood swings.. my brothers attitude problem, his “blue moon” smile… his “bhara bhai-ness”… and im serious.. usually people would be thankful to get away from such crazy people.. but im gonna miss em!
