Zamana
June 16, 2010, 1:53am
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Let me clarify.. i don’t think a guy should EVER have to choose between his mother and his wife. That is just wrong. Respect should be given to both completely hands down.
But my response to this thread was in regards to a very specific situation where a guy knows his mom wants to arrange his marriage and he still goes against her. That is already a betrayal of sorts. And then its not fair that he drag “a stranger” into this mess. And by the time the words “shaadi” are being thrown around… I doubt that she is truly a stranger by then. I do feel like in this situation the guy should stand up for his girl and try to win his mother to understand the situatoin and accept it. And if she is not willing to understand or compromise on her sons desires and feelings …and respect that he is a grown bacha … then the guy should LEAVE HIS MOM’s WISHES and marry his girl. But even in this situation - he shouldnt abandon her.
In these situations - I have noticed more often that it is the MOTHER that abandons her son. Now u tell me people… is that right? Is it right to abandon your own child that you have carried in your womb as opposed to forgive him and try to accept what has happened.
I am not even talking about him marrying a kali or anything. Like what if the guy has chosen a wonderful pakistani girl who is perfect in everyway… her only fault is that she was not hand chosen by her MIL.
I’m sorry but I agree with you completely! Guys should stick up for their wishes because if they go against what they want and do something like get married to someone they don’t want to just because of their mother then it is unfair for that girl.