I was just thinking,can you trust a person who is willing to leave his mom for you? 
And why?
I wouldn't
Why?
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The most selfish thing a man can do. Why would you trust him then?
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okay seriously i dont get it, if a guy doesnt leave his mom he is called a mama`s boy and he is not worth it, if a guy leaves his mom he is selfish and not worth it, so my dear ladies first of all think hard and make up your mind and then let us know what you WANT 
That’s what i was thinking! If he takes a stand for a girl,he is called selfish..if he leaves the girl and chooses the mom,he’s called mama’s boy 
and u say girls got it tough 
So which one do you prefer? A mama’s boy or a selfish scumbag?
The answer is pretty obvious. You don’t leave a woman who carried you in her body for 9 months for a stranger.
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^ But,I believe,there are few guys who do that,isn’t it?
The most selfish thing a man can do. Why would you trust him then?
More selfish than a guy getting involved with a girl and leading her on for years and saying he will marry her but when push comes to shove and his mother is not on board .... so he leaves the girl instead??? Aka - does not stand up for his true love, the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with?
We have seen countless threads where the ONLY reason the mom is not on board is because she wanted to pick the "perfect bahu" herself... and this is not selfish?
I mean... if a mom is truly being unreasonable - and the guy (knowing his mother is like this) still gets involved in a relationship ... i think it is selfish if the guy does stick with his mother.
It's THEIR life afterall..... and sometimes (i know this is a hard concept for pakistani's to comprehend) .. the individuals themselves know what is best for them.... not their parents.
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No if he does it, its not selfish, Hes a man, and if hes willing to stand up i assuming for his girl, Then i wud trust him because he did that for her. However if a girl did that, i wudnt trust her, it jus doesnt seem right. a man is a man and needs to stand on his own feet. And standing up to mummy, hes making that step to live his life and make his own mind up for him and his girl.
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lol, you ppl are seriosuly messed up. Why does a guy have to be either Mama's boy or a selfish whatever?
Why can't he respect his mother, love her for what she is and also be considerate and loving with his wife? I just don't get it.
I know an example who's good at balancing out both mom and wife.... who says to his wife, it doesn't matter whether my mom is right or wrong, being my wife you just have to respect her and never answer back, come to me with any problems you have and I'll solve them, just remain quiet in front of my mom.
And he does the same, he doesn't answer back to his mom, respects her, loves her and makes her understand things very calmly and in a reasonable manner. Its not rocket science, you know.
wow, i for sure am not a nice guy, he is MashaAllah.
coming back MB 
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You can't. That shows he doesn't have respect for the woman he should be respecting the most, thus doesn't respect you.
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by leaving his mom means deserting her, never speaking her, not supporting her (emotionally and financially), then hes a prick.
But by leaving his mother, meaning that he moves out of the home after marriage, but at the same time tending to his mother's needs (not necessarily demands and wants), then is he more of a man than the one that brings his new wife to his mother's home (yes, its will always be his mother's home) and allows them to bicker endlessly (if they do) for the rest of their lives.
by leaving his mom means deserting her, never speaking her, not supporting her (emotionally and financially), then hes a prick.
But by leaving his mother, meaning that he moves out of the home after marriage, but at the same time tending to his mother's needs (not necessarily demands and wants), then is he more of a man than the one that brings his new wife to his mother's home (yes, its will always be his mother's home) and allows them to bicker endlessly (if they do) for the rest of their lives.
blah blah, let me add something, if a guy leave his mom for the sake of his new chick and get a new home a km away but still providing her all the financial support, even still then he is not a man in my eyes.
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not all guys move away for the sake of their wives u know.
i dont get why hes "worst" ...explain?
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Let me clarify.. i don't think a guy should EVER have to choose between his mother and his wife. That is just wrong. Respect should be given to both completely hands down.
But my response to this thread was in regards to a very specific situation where a guy knows his mom wants to arrange his marriage and he still goes against her. That is already a betrayal of sorts. And then its not fair that he drag "a stranger" into this mess. And by the time the words "shaadi" are being thrown around... I doubt that she is truly a stranger by then. I do feel like in this situation the guy should stand up for his girl and try to win his mother to understand the situatoin and accept it. And if she is not willing to understand or compromise on her sons desires and feelings ...and respect that he is a grown bacha ... then the guy should LEAVE HIS MOM's WISHES and marry his girl. But even in this situation - he shouldnt abandon her.
In these situations - I have noticed more often that it is the MOTHER that abandons her son. Now u tell me people... is that right? Is it right to abandon your own child that you have carried in your womb as opposed to forgive him and try to accept what has happened.
I am not even talking about him marrying a kali or anything. Like what if the guy has chosen a wonderful pakistani girl who is perfect in everyway... her only fault is that she was not hand chosen by her MIL.