It depends if the mom’s reasons for disliking the girl are valid or not. Thats what it comes down to. You have to know when youre mom is throwing a fit and when she might be right. And for all those that said stuff like listen to the mom and you can always get another girl…Serously grow up and learn to RESPECT all women weather they are youre wives, fiances,sisters or mothers.aightt.
What if your dad had that attitude with youre mom??.uff
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well said nik sis! a great answer to hear.
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well no doubt that a mother has a respect but if you will see Islam then you can also see and know that a girl in our Prophet Hazrat Muhammad(SAW)'S time was forcefully married by her father where she didnt like to marry.
she came to our Prophet and complained about her father and this brutality. Hazrat Muhammad(SAW) broke that marriage.
now these incidents could also be seen in Islamic teachings but to every decision there must be a proper reasoning.
and this is also not a way that you trap a girl or a boy in ur love and in the end you that with him/her by only ur mom or dad's decision if its wrong!
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A relationship between a man and a woman give only them this right to decide their future. One must respect the different point of views i.e. of mother's, but should use his own brain to decide the final outcome.
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The way i look at it...
you can judge a guy by the way he treats his mother. If he treats his mother with respect then he will treat his wife with respect. If he can walk out on his mother......he will eventually walk out on his wife.
A mother and wife have certain rights over their son/hubby. The two have their own equal yet different place in his life.....and both should be respected. A woman should never put him in a situation where he feels the need to pick one over the other. That would be asking for catastrophe.
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The way i look at it...
you can judge a guy by the way he treats his mother. If he treats his mother with respect then he will treat his wife with respect. If he can walk out on his mother......he will eventually walk out on his wife.
A mother and wife have certain rights over their son/hubby. The two have their own equal yet different place in his life.....and both should be respected. A woman should never put him in a situation where he feels the need to pick one over the other. That would be asking for catastrophe.
well not true for all guys.some treat their moms blindly n won't respect their wives ever the same way.i think the guys who takes stand for wives r better when its time to keep balance than those who silently listens to everything mom says
hav u watched that pak serial Mukammila n Mahira.that munnu mian character couldn't save his marriage coz he was a mama's boy n the other brother even though married against moms wish n left family for the girl the girl was treated with much more respect by the mom.
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i so agree with Mabrook, when it comes to wives, its a different matter altogether, some mothers are so manipulative and lie so blatantly, they know how to play their sons,if mummy says that the pink cushion is black, then yes its black..b'cos he doesn't wanna be disrespectful to his mother. this is where guys needs to actually use the few brain cells that they have been gifted with and think laterally...
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u know i witnessed this thing by my own eyes my bil went to his mom (when she criticized my sis on someting very petty but she got upset) n said clearly that its my wife n i'll tell her how to live n wat to do or not do n u should never do that again.it was blunt n felt rude at the time but honestly she found respect in the family plus they never interferred or put any sort of restrictions on her.
with me its the resverse my hubby follows parents blindly never takes stand for me no matter how unjust they r but forces me to please them at all costs n still i never got the respect i deserve from either parties.u respect ur mom coz she gav birth to u wat abt the woman that gives birth to ur kids isn't she a mom too?
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i can so relate to what you are saying Mabrook, luckily my in laws are in Pakistan,me and my husband have a brilliant relationship, but it takes one phone call from his mum to ruin things...he follows everything she says blindly and she is notorious for her lying, she will say one thing to one person and the opposite to another
furthermore we have been married 10years this year, have 3 beautiful children, but she still tells him that he made a mistake marrying me, and she would have been better off with so and so as her d-in law...but i know that my hubby would be lost without me....and mum is far away...but for how long????
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^well some moms like it or not joray asmaan pe he bantay hain n jis ki jahan kismat hai us ne wahin rehna hai.
yes i live away from in-laws too they r in pak n i'm in canada but everytime we come under one roof its cat n mice....
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What i dont understand is, if you know your mother wont accept a woman that's not her choice, why do guys even try then?
If a guy respected his mother so much, why doesnt he make himself aware of the family's preferences and traditions and accept it?
If a guy respected his mother and women in general, why would he waste his time on a girl when he knows there's a good chance his mother wont approve?
Why go through all that drama?
Not dating, and letting your mother choose your spouse, doesnt make you a bad person; but dating a girl, knowing full well mommy won't accept, and leading her on (or naively thinking mom will accept) does make you a jerk.
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I think its stupid and LAME and STUPID. Have I already commented in this thread? sorry
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amen to sara.
Men suck in general though. So i dont blame them. Just their gender.
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Sure. Mom gave birth to the man....leaving a mom for the girl would be really wrong.
If the girl is right type ..she will convince the mom that she is worth her son.
Agree with the bit in bold, or son can try and convince Mum.
Altho Mum gave birth to him she shouldn't dictate who he can/can't marry unless there is some good reason. Some Mums have a fixation with a certain girl and no-one else will do, whether the son likes her or not, it's extreme but I've seen it with my own eyes.