Re: leave him??
Thank you ALL for the advice.... It has been some difficult days of my life... I did talk to my husband and to my surprise he said that he fathers behavior did not warrent him to stand up for me and there is nothing he can do for me beacuse his parents are the most important people for him...And if I dont like that fact I can leave...... He went furthur to say that the reason I am in this house is beacuse of his parents and not him??? ( how can he say that , we fell in love two years prior to the shadi and I was even ready to leave my parents to be with him.... but Thanks to Allah everything went our way and our family happy married us, we have been married for two years now..... 4 years!!!) He said he can not stand any comments/disrespect for his parents... (what disrespect???) BASICALLY there is no talking to this man....
Let me tell you all some other thing about his parents.... they only misbehave with me when my husband is not around.... and I was so happy that he acutally saw it happen...... His father is sooo chalaak....I dont know how he found out that my husband saw what ever happend, he applogized to me in front of my husband and then as soon as my husband left he was back to the way he is with me..... This is how my MIL and FIL are .... really nice to me infront of my husband and then change as soon as he is away....
I am a very simple person.... i dont know much chalakiyaan..... It just surprises me how his parents munipulate him.....
I really do love my husband......too much....to the point that I would not be able to survive without him..... (I know its sad and I hate it but that is the fact) How do I make someone like him realize what he is saying/doing is wrong??? I know he doesnt mean all he said....he cant.... he loves me and I know it..... but his parents have a control on him that is not letting him realize it.
I was thinking if we had a kid maybe it will change my husbands thinking..... ??? We are not planning on having kids for 4 more years but maybe we should??? We have big plans in terms of how we will raise our kids.... just by talking about the kids I know how much he loves them... and he would be a good father and also would not want anyone to give me tension during my pregency??? Is this a dumb thought??
I dont know what else to do anymore..... I cant stand their behavior either.....I am becoming more and more depressed as the days pass..... My friends cant belive this is me.....I left them all beacuse my FIL and MIL did not like me meeting them....... Everytime I went out to meet them and came home my MIL created some sort of drama so just to make peace in the house I stoped going out with my friends..........
I cant involve my parents beacuse it would break my moms heart beacuse my two elder sisters went through a bad marriage and I know how hurt they were and also know how happy they were that I have a good husband... my mom has suffered through enough in life and I cant put her through this.... SOme times I just feel like leaving everyone and going to a place where I know no one....... :(