What lessons have you learned from previous relationships? what are you doing differently compared to your past behavior and what are the results?
Re: Learned from my past relationships
Ive learned that relationships are two way streets. Its not just my way or his way, it has to be a give and take no matter how much my fiance loves me. If Im too selfish, he'll eventually stop loving me, wont he? And vice versa.
Having the biggest ring, the best car, the nicest house, etc mean nothing if you're not happy.
Trust your gut instincts. Ask yourself if this is something you would be proud of later on.
Never choose a man over your family. He can divorce you, your parents cant.
Listen to your parents. They do have your best interest at heart and will never fail to guide you.
i would answer but right now i don't know if i can do so much energy expenditure from my brain
maybe later:)
I've learned to be more independent. I guess what I'm trying to say is that its not healthy to be too emotionally dependent on others. Otherwise you get really hurt if the relationship fails (even if its only a friendship) or if the other person betrays you. It's healthy to have your own identity, your own goals, your own dreams, your own sense of self, while maintaining relations with others.
I'm also learning that u can't change people, but you can at least try to change the way you react to things and situations. And that's a difficult thing to manage. It requires a lot of self-control, discipline, and courage even to let your pride slide.
I've also learned that one should be careful about who they should trust, especially in a competitive environment such as the work place....... I really believe that the work place is one of the BEST places to learn about human nature and character. It is unbelievable how LOW people will stoop to get ahead. For most of our lives, we're so sheltered by our parents and educators........but when you become more independent and enter the real world........yikes. Then you receive a completely different sort of education....the one you never got in school!
And I'm still learning as time goes on that sometimes its good to give others the benefit of the doubt rather than rushing to judge them:) And that can be difficult to do as well.
And I would say that the one lesson I have learned throughout life and in all my relationships is that sooner or later............what goes around comes around.....in some way shape or form.
I've learned to be more independent. I guess what I'm trying to say is that its not healthy to be too emotionally dependent on others. Otherwise you get really hurt if the relationship fails (even if its only a friendship) or if the other person betrays you. It's healthy to have your own identity, your own goals, your own dreams, your own sense of self, while maintaining relations with others.
I'm also learning that u can't change people, but you can at least try to change the way you react to things and situations. And that's a difficult thing to manage. It requires a lot of self-control, discipline, and courage even to let your pride slide.
I've also learned that one should be careful about who they should trust, especially in a competitive environment such as the work place....... I really believe that the work place is one of the BEST places to learn about human nature and character. It is unbelievable how LOW people will stoop to get ahead. For most of our lives, we're so sheltered by our parents and educators........but when you become more independent and enter the real world........yikes. Then you receive a completely different sort of education....the one you never got in school!
And I'm still learning as time goes on that sometimes its good to give others the benefit of the doubt rather than rushing to judge them:) And that can be difficult to do as well.
And I would say that the one lesson I have learned throughout life and in all my relationships is that sooner or later............what goes around comes around.....in some way shape or form.
I've learned to be more independent. I guess what I'm trying to say is that its not healthy to be too emotionally dependent on others. Otherwise you get really hurt if the relationship fails (even if its only a friendship) or if the other person betrays you. It's healthy to have your own identity, your own goals, your own dreams, your own sense of self, while maintaining relations with others.
I'm also learning that u can't change people, but you can at least try to change the way you react to things and situations. And that's a difficult thing to manage. It requires a lot of self-control, discipline, and courage even to let your pride slide.
I've also learned that one should be careful about who they should trust, especially in a competitive environment such as the work place....... I really believe that the work place is one of the BEST places to learn about human nature and character. It is unbelievable how LOW people will stoop to get ahead. For most of our lives, we're so sheltered by our parents and educators........but when you become more independent and enter the real world........yikes. Then you receive a completely different sort of education....the one you never got in school!
And I'm still learning as time goes on that sometimes its good to give others the benefit of the doubt rather than rushing to judge them:) And that can be difficult to do as well.
And I would say that the one lesson I have learned throughout life and in all my relationships is that sooner or later............what goes around comes around.....in some way shape or form.
Oh my God , u seem extremely experienced
I don't think I'm that experienced. But i've learned some valuable lessons from my past relationships. And other things, I continue to learn.
The question is fairly broad, it doesn't specify the type of relationship.
I'm basing my answer on my interactions with family, friends, and coworkers throughout the years.
As far as "exclusive relationships" are concerned.....I've no experience in that. Maybe one day, InshaAllah.
I don't think I'm that experienced. But i've learned some valuable lessons from my past relationships. And other things, I continue to learn.
The question is fairly broad, it doesn't specify the type of relationship.
I'm basing my answer on my interactions with family, friends, and coworkers throughout the years.
As far as "exclusive relationships" are concerned.....I've no experience in that. Maybe one day, InshaAllah.
arey,donot feel offended.
I was jus kidding
Re: Learned from my past relationships
i learned that every relationshio loses the initial shine or lustre but what it shouldnt lose is the respect and desire to make it work. so the loss of lustre isnt equal to loss of relationship.
LOOL. I'm not offended at all Sameen Ji. I was afraid I had unknowingly given the impression of seeming like a know-it-all........and that is not the case at all, nor was it my intention. I just wanted to clarify that.
Don't worry, it's all good!
Re: Learned from my past relationships
Arrogance is important. Sometimes compromise is not worth it. Losing one's self is never worth it. Oh yeah I need to stop being a gadha, in some cases literally.
Re: Learned from my past relationships
what i have learned is to be a bit of diplomatic inspite of being transparent as i used to be, ppl around us also demand this, may b i sound a bit bitter but this is what i have learned from people. i used to be clear inside out, expressed whatever felt. had pure feelings for most of the people but time proved that except yuor parents and siblings no one is going to be fair and would even care for you. all the rest of the relations damand a give and take balance.
Re: Learned from my past relationships
i learned that there is a LIMIT for everything, No one deserves too much attention.
Re: Learned from my past relationships
learnd from past
neva Trust at ppl blindly
Re: Learned from my past relationships
i have learned to get over quickly
Re: Learned from my past relationships
Well, I've learned many lessons from just one person - most of them have already been mentioned. I guess the one that isn't mentioned is learning to be grateful and appreciative. Everyone is different and everyone has different ways of showing love and care - try to be content with whatever way your partner is most comfortable, after all, he is not Mr. Darcy. :)
i learned that there is a LIMIT for everything, No one deserves too much attention.
Totally agree! that's what I learned
Re: Learned from my past relationships
Relationships = compromise. If one or both sides are not game, it wont work.
Relationships before marriage = waste of time when you know youre getting an arranged marriage.
Re: Learned from my past relationships
Life is unfair. Accept it and get over it. Dont blame others (boss, relatives, economy, God) for the mess you are in or justify situations or complain about stuff. There are no complain departments in this Universe.