I have noticed that a couple of my friends are involved with men who they cannot really marry for various reasons and to be honest they dont really want to marry these men.
In the relationships i talk about the Men seem to be head over heels in love and the girls enjoying the attention of the men they are with.
I find it really unfair to lead these men on, however when i mention this to my friends they seem to think its perfectly OK to lead people on and even a womans right??
They think that if a man approaches them and he is decent enough and giving them loads of attention and chasing them its ok to mess with them a little bit and then string them along until ‘The One’ comes along.
I dont understand, how people can do this without feeling guilt?? And how do they not get attached surely things are going end in a bitter manner and everyone will be heart broken??
No one should be leading anyone on. However, there are girls that do enjoy the attention they receive and IMO, they're witches, and one of the reasons women in the end don't get any respect because anyone can pull out examples of such "w"omen
Leading guys on without the idea of marrying them might not be a big deal in the West. Its now happening in Pakistan too. Girls and guys get involved in each other although they know there are huge differences amongst them and their families won't even approve of their marriage. They spend their time like they are in a relationships although they both agree that nothing is serious between them and they won't be getting married to each other and are just enjoying their company. They officially declare each other their boyfriend/ girlfriend and when the time to make decision to get married comes, they just break things up, get away with each other and marry someone else.
I am not judging and generalising. But I have known few cases in my friends circle. Yes this is happening in Pakistan too. There was a guy (Muslim) and a girl (Christian). They were together for sometime with no intention of getting married. When the guy's mom asked him to get married, he just broke up with the girl, the girl was ok, she moved on, the guy proposed another class fellow after consulting his mom.
Having bf/gf is the latest trend in Pakistan I heard and if a guy/ girl doens't have a gf/ bf, he/ she is not considered coool. Only a minority of them would have marriage in their mind when they engage in such relationships.
How are either of your situations leading on? Did you even understand what it means by the term leading on? It’s when one person knows nothing is going to come out of the relationship in the end, but the other person expects something. That is leading on. If two consenting adults get into a relationship knowing full well that nothing will come out of it in the end, that in the end they will marry other people, BOTH of them know it, that’s NOT leading on.
Well we all form our opinions and views from what we heard, seen and observed. It might be different for you and you don’t have to agree with me.
Thanks for the clarification. I guess I got it wrong then :khums: In that case, such ‘leading on’ acts are not only limited to girls but guys too and not just in West but in Pakistan too. Again, I am not generalising. Its called time pass in Pakistan (and one person can be serious in the relationship while the other might just be playing).
