My wedding is now officially in a month (insh’allah). I left my job permanently about 2 weeks ago because I will be moving abroad after the wedding, and also cus I wanted some time start ‘preparing’ for the shaadi.
But that’s just it. I’m being really lazy! I’ve done all the shopping and stuff like that. But from what I understand and have seen, brides are supposed to spend a good deal of time taking care of themselves in prep for the shaadi.
I had planned to do facemasks every day (besan, haldi, dahi, and brown sugar), use a body scrub after every shower, moisturise regularly, do something with my hair, all that jazz. But I haven’t done anything. Plus I joined a gym and am going to the occasional hips bums and tums classes, but then I eat a massive bar of chocolate when I get home… I know I’m not taking this seriously. And people KEEP saying to me why haven’t you started looking after yourself, but I just keep saying I’ll do it tomorrow…
Also, I’m gonna be moving away from my parents to another country - and for some reason I don’t feel sad or anything. When is that gonna kick in? Cus I know I will miss them like anything… just not feeling it atm.
So I wanted to ask - have any other brides-to-be felt like this in the run up to their wedding? Is there a period when the reality of it all will actually kick in and I will start trying to prepare? I know in my head that it’s one month left now - I thought that would be a motivator, but I’m being really laid back about everything.
:)) Hahahaha.. My wedding is in december inshaAllah and I totally know what you’re talking about.. Only difference is I didnt join a gym while I was supposed to, I didnt start eating healthy.. Didnt start my beauty treatments, didnt start doing something with my hair.. As a matter of fact, all I did was book my tickets. LOL. My shopping will start in november when I’m gonna go to PK.. Tht’ll give me a month, to get ALL my dresses, & arrange the hall, the cards, the decoration, the cameraman, the photographer..
So yup, unfortunately I’m also suffering the lazy-bride-syndrome.
you're not doing something wrong lol. take it easy and enjoy your days off before life changes. a relaxed bride is a happy bride, imho. don't add stress to your life for no reason! as for missing your folks, it'll kick in when it does. no one says you have to go into a mourning period. God forbid, no one is dying, you're moving on with the next stage of your life and you- and they- will adapt.
sorry, i know this is the anti-stress thread, but you’re getting married in december in pakistan and don’t have your hall (or anything else) yet?? you know that’s high season for weddings, right? and when are you planning to send out the cards if you’re not getting them until a month before? i’m sorry- i’m getting hives on your behalf. this is all the big stuff! i hope you have lots of help!
Well, I’m from Jhelum and over there it’s not thattt fully booked I’ve heared. Or atleast I hope.. Or card ka kuch karna parhega jha ke.. Im going in mid november and getting married by 31st dec.. Hopefully thats enough, since our cards just have to be sent to relatives who live close by and his family ofcourse.. Us ke ilawa.. I have no clue what to do. No help either
are u thinking of getting ur dress from Lahore/Faislabad/jhelum? One month is a very short time for dresses to be made specially in the height of wedding season, vendors call it "urgent" & the price shoots up, just from my experience.. I'd advise u to have an idea of what u want so it's not complicated when u get here, keep a style n colour scheme in mind.
Modern/traditional style, long kameez, A-line... n MUA . If halls and invites aren't a prob then focus on you on the big day and make sure u have all the big to little things down : dress/j/shoes.
You might want to get them from wherever u are currently since a lot of brides feel there isnt enough choice, or cant find what they are looking for . have a look at the threads ova here ;)
I don't mean to panic you but just help u to organize ur self so that you don't stress at last minute & u enjoy ur time here too :)
To the Jhelum bride: Where are you getting your makeup done from? M gettin married at Tulip hotel in January :) and also suffering from a lazy bride syndrome?
we haven’t done any of the major things either. Need to get invites sorted (less than a month before the wedding and we haven’t even got them made yet…) need to finalise food, make up artist, guest list, stage decoration, venue for mehndi… yeah there’s loads of stuff to do. I think maybe that’s why I’ve been so chill about everything…
On the plus side ladies, today I used a body scrub in the shower for the first time - progress!!!
nnabid, at the end of october, not a long left now! Can you send me the dholki song list that you got from here in sticky forum. I dont think, the member is here anymore. please..
I am on list of lazy brides getting married on dec 30 have not done anything.... Will be traveling to Pak 2 weeks b4 wedding... Hoping everything will be done b4 the wedding... One thing I have done is lost 30 pounds to be ready to fit in my wedding dress..... wish all the brides-to-be gud luck...
Oh deaaaaaaarr, that is such a tight schedule! You are planning to have your dresses made while you are there too!?? You have to start way early for that, tailors are booked like there’s no tomorrow. My bhabhi-to-be already got her Baraat dress made and the wedding is last day of December You haveeeee to start doing early, whatever you can do from here!
Lol! Congrats! But where are you getting married, Pakistan!?? The makup salons and photographers are so nakhreloo and they say they are busy as heck in december season, you have to book like MIN 2 months pehle.
I'll be getting married in a month Insha'Allah and I'm pretty much facing the same thing .. I'm too lazy to take care of my nails and walk around with messy hair .. I do fret when a pimple pops up .. I guess we'll have to entirely rely on parlor wali to do some magic
Or card ka kuch karna parhega jha ke.. Im going in mid november and getting married by 31st dec.. Hopefully thats enough, since our cards just have to be sent to relatives who live close by and his family ofcourse.. Us ke ilawa.. I have no clue what to do. No help either 
You have to start way early for that, tailors are booked like there’s no tomorrow. My bhabhi-to-be already got her Baraat dress made and the wedding is last day of December 
You haveeeee to start doing early, whatever you can do from here!