Isn’t it true that in a couple one person is more active and responsible than other ? This thing is more obvious in Desi couples . Is it just team dynamics where one person feels more responsible or is it the personality that one carries ?
IF your spouse is a lazy one then how will you make him/her more productive & active ?
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but y do u wana make ur spouse active if the other one himself/herself is active???they shud b active enough that inactivity of the other partner doesnot matter to them....
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^ But don't you think its annoying if you are the person doing everything and other one is just a lazy bum . I actually know a lot of couples who have this complain from their partner . Means even if you think about a team , you expect everyone to work equally . Don't you think its discouraging for other person ?
Lets suppose you are the one who is doing laundry , grocery , trip planning etc etc and your husband/wife is just sitting their like a goof . Will that be ok with you ?
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my dad's the lazy one and my mum's the over active one... but she's cool with it... and they dont have fights regarding the laziness
I think its a problem if the lazy one is overly lazy and expects toooo much from the active one. If lazy pulls their weight enough to not let active complain then active should be fine.
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i guess these kind of issues can only be sorted by communication .... fighting never helps , it only makes the situation and the relationship worse.
Bringing more motivation and inspiration in life is what can help the situation as well ..
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me and my hubby are same..both fairy active....no one else depends on the other....sometimes hubby will work and go grocery shopping and even suggest helping me out in the kitcen if he thinks ive done too much work that day...( i cooked for my relatives once, took all day and was knackered, he had come from long day at work, and did some shopping and then when everyone went he offered to help me, bless) I SAID NOOOOOu relax il do it.....so i did.....and the rest....
love him.
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I wouldn't say one fo us is lazy or active but rather..he works full time..so i dont mind if he doesnt help much around the house... since i'm free these days, everything is my responsibility (the groceries, dishes, cleaning etc). Only thing i ask for is a little apprciation...thats all.
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We are both lazy.
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To answer your question.
Plenty of sex, that should keep the two active and if all is well, productive. 
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I would be annoyed if I had to do everything.
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^ True . But how to motivate someone to contribute equally ?
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You just don't do their work for them, and tell them, pitch in or I'm doing my half of the work and you can take care of your half.
Don't put in a lot of work into things, like his meals, for example.
And be upfront - let him know that you're not motivated to do chores if he isn't. When there is no dinner on the table consistently every night for a few nights, he'll get his act together.
Again, things that need to be investigated before the marriage.
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we both are active although there are days when we just dont feel like doing anything but thats completely normal. If she is feeling exhausted, I put in extra millage and if I am feeling down, she takes care of my responsibilities....
Although I do accept that lately I have been acting a bit more lazy may be I was just overdoing for initial 5/6 years of our relationship.