As we go through life, we meet many people, form many relationships, some friendships, some more than that.. we create dreams and have aspirations with these people.. we build our imaginatory future with them.. but things never work out how you plan or how you wish.. but there comes a time when you truly have to move on.. until you do.. i think we float along with all this baggage in tow..
Such a time is here.. for me.. Im getting married in about 4 weeks time.. Its time to lay things to rest… but as I ‘air’ my heart and mind ridding myself of the loved and lost.. I find despair seeping in, anger.. hurt.. all the feelings associated with the death of a relationship.. Im trying to move on with my life and I have moved on.. but there are strings that hold me back… I want to cut these strings.. I want to move forward with a clean slate if you will…
How do you mentally prepare yourself to lay all your skeletons to rest and move forward with a clean slate?
I wonder why this is repeated generations after generations.
Today you feel the concequences of your dreams and the doings of your heart. Tommorrow some one else will go walk this path, and the
big wheel will keep on turning.
You hang in there ! Refresh you mind - Turn a new page - lose the extra baggage, be a little selfish,you owe it to your self :D
mmm well...you have to realize that you don't have to hold onto those strings if you don't want to. That's the first step at least.
Besides, is this coming from guilt that you're entering marriage having had old skeletons? Or is it coming from you realizing there wont be any new skeletons?
Idont think you can ever cut those strings..
if it wasnt for those relationships you wouldnt be the person you are now. Dont try to hide them or forget them.. embrace and them and remind yourself of what your learned in each one.
And from what I know about you.. there is no dark past.. you lived life honestly and thats something to be proud of. Accept it.. Enjoy it!
Know that most people dnt have the strength to do that..
Bury the skeleton(s) and move on.
Living with a boulder in place of a heart is neither
comfortable nor pleasurable. Past is what makes your
present. But learn to uphold yourself with time and
surroundings. Congratulations.
Mem Saab, I think its pretty simple, just tell yourself that you HAVE to be FULLY committed to the guy you get married to and there’s no room at all for you to even think about anyone else as that would be unfair to him (your hubby) and he (not anyone else you’ve been attached to in the past) is NUMBER ONE PRIORITY who deserves your 100% and the only one about whom you can think in that way.
There’s absolutely nothing selfish or cruel about moving on, in fact it would be wrong not to. What’s cruel is not to be fully committed to your relationship with your hubby, which is what thinking about others and still having a string attached to them translates to. I’m not saying start hating those ppl you’ve been attached to in the past but they should just be like any other friend from the past, nothing more.
I believe one can do it when one realises that that is indeed the right thing to do and if one really wants to :k: good luck and shadi mubarak
Of course my husband will get all my attention and all feelings of love and affection will be directed towards him.. but I dont think its easy just to move on and not think of someone you once loved...
I agree with what you said but I dont think its as easy as telling yourself to do it and following it through.
It would be wonderful to spend time with him and fall in love and then I wouldnt look back.. and I hope its as simple as that.
I think its cuz ur getting married and at one point u probably planned something else..but once ur married it wont be that hard not to think of anyone else especially when u realize this was meant to be, that wasnt n was a waiste of time n emotions
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*Originally posted by ~Tikhi Jalebi~: *
I think its cuz ur getting married and at one point u probably planned something else..but once ur married it wont be that hard not to think of anyone else especially when u realize this was meant to be, that wasnt n was a waiste of time n emotions
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you're right.. its coz im starting this new chapter in life and its not how id planned.. I am excited but got teeny niggles too.. Inshallah Ill be fine and this was meant to be... everything else Iv been running after was a waste of time.
Hmm to be honest with you I don't think you're ready for this marriage. You haven't gotten over that last relationship yet. I don't think you should just force yourself to move on like this. You don't have to.
CA I guess you never really forget stuff that's happened in our life..you carry the wounds and scars with you forever..but it doesn't mean you aren't ready for the future.
