How would you feel if the person whom you were going to marry is always on whats app. Her “Last Seen” is always couple of minutes behind the clock all day all night. You sit and wait for her to reply to your message. You know that she’s on Whatsapp and you know that she has seen your messages but she continues to ignore them? She says that she’s busy, but can anyone be this busy to always be on whatsapp and yet deliberately ignore her fiance’s messages? How would that make you feel? When confronted she’ll make up 100 excuses and will apologize but then repeat the same process all over again.
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If this behavior continued after I brought it up a few times, I would not waste any more of my time. This person is either immature and likes to play games or they don't know how to tell you that they are not interested.
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If this behavior continued after I brought it up a few times, I would not waste any more of my time. This person is either immature and likes to play games or they don't know how to tell you that they are not interested.
The thing is every time I confront her saying that she's playing these mind games she goes "Ainda khyaal rakhon gi" and "I Miss you sad face" and will convince me that she wants this to work but she's not putting in effort. If I ask her to come on Skype or fix a time and date to skype and she'll be on Whatsapp but she'll never initiate the message saying "Hey I'm free want to skype?" and when I say "You've been on whatsapp all day, why didn't you skype" and she'll say "Yaar tou mujey khud kaha hota mein ajati" meaning she has no interest in talking with me. I am so fed up I made the wrong choice!
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I'm a lousy texter. I always check my Whatsapp and read texts, but for some reason I never reply right away, and Then I forget to reply... And then I get yelled at 😂. She could be like that too. I know the purpose of phones was to make communication more efficient, but some of us are just bad at it.
I think you're the same guy who was trying to decide between two girls, right? It does kinda seem like she isn't interested... I think she wants to marry you and is stringing you along, but she's not invested in your relationship. But my opinion is based on what you write, and she has a whole other side, so don't dwell on it lol.
Just trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
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Out of curiosity, Who did you pick @PapuChiri2020 ? The desi or the western?
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i dont get the deal about whatsapp, especially if its someone close. why not just text? or if its important, call? i check my whatsapp once in a few days and its always full of spam or near-spam. maybe i'm getting old but talking to the girl you are to marry on whatsapp is like wearing a lungi to your job interview. put some effort into it, pal. dont be sloppy. :\
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I remember PCG once making a similar complain… thats quite a similarity 
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Queer, Whatsapp is handier than text because it's easier to share pics, do group chats etc.
OP, she's obviously not too busy to be chatting to other people on there, is she..
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What is wrong in wearing a lungi to a job interview as long as it is not at half mast
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i dont get the deal about whatsapp, especially if its someone close. why not just text? or if its important, call? i check my whatsapp once in a few days and its always full of spam or near-spam. maybe i'm getting old but talking to the girl you are to marry on whatsapp is like wearing a lungi to your job interview. put some effort into it, pal. dont be sloppy. :\
Calling works if you're in the same time zone and when she was in the same country as I'm in she was always surrounded by her family members. And the way our crappy culture works its considered an absolute tremendous taboo if a girl speaks with her husband before marriage oh no "Loki ki akhsan?" But even with the people around we would speak on the phone. But then she went to another place where she's alone ALL day and I can't call due to time differences but we can always Skype. But all that has dropped, no skyping no messaging. It's like as if she lost interest, she has to be speaking with someone on Whatsapp because she's ALWAYS on it. But every time I message it's ignore central. You'd think that she'd at least replied to her future husband? I am just so sick of this.
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Out of curiosity, Who did you pick @PapuChiri2020 ? The desi or the western?
I was coerced in to going with the traditional girl. The quasi western girl as I was told wouldn't know how to make rotis and wont "take care of me" but I protested but you can do so much with desi parents as they always find a way to convince you. I feel as if I'm not marrying her my parents are bringing in a "maasi" for me. I feel so depressed.
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I sense red flags. If someone is really interested in you, likes you, or loves you etc, trust me they'll text you etc. I might be so damn busy, but I always am texting the one I love all the time. That person runs in your mind. If that girl doesn't have this in her mind about you, then what's the point?
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I sense red flags. If someone is really interested in you, likes you, or loves you etc, trust me they'll text you etc. I might be so damn busy, but I always am texting the one I love all the time. That person runs in your mind. If that girl doesn't have this in her mind about you, then what's the point?
She did that initially but then she suddenly stopped, crying she's busy...
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Has something been happening in her life lately, that's made her upset or something. Sometimes people do that, especially women. Something happens and they shut you off. It doesn't mean they don't like you anymore or something. Just need space. How long has she been doing that? Is it prolonged, or just started this behaviour of hers?
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if dubaiwali is seeing red flags its over, pal. life1's oracle has spoken. your wife is a commi.
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Damn it, and i thought the red flags I was seeing was people changing their DP after that Istanbul attack 
PS: Can this thread be the original theme of the female version of movie, “He’s just not that into you..”??
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How would you feel if the person whom you were going to marry is always on whats app. Her "Last Seen" is always couple of minutes behind the clock all day all night. You sit and wait for her to reply to your message. You know that she's on Whatsapp and you know that she has seen your messages but she continues to ignore them? She says that she's busy, but can anyone be this busy to always be on whatsapp and yet deliberately ignore her fiance's messages? How would that make you feel? When confronted she'll make up 100 excuses and will apologize but then repeat the same process all over again.
get rid of her....
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Calling works if you're in the same time zone and when she was in the same country as I'm in she was always surrounded by her family members. And the way our crappy culture works its considered an absolute tremendous taboo if a girl speaks with her husband before marriage oh no "Loki ki akhsan?" But even with the people around we would speak on the phone. But then she went to another place where she's alone ALL day and I can't call due to time differences but we can always Skype. But all that has dropped, no skyping no messaging. It's like as if she lost interest, she has to be speaking with someone on Whatsapp because she's ALWAYS on it. But every time I message it's ignore central. You'd think that she'd at least replied to her future husband? I am just so sick of this.
omg....dude reddd flags...
u need to play hard to get....love hurts, get over it....its probably ur first time in love thats why your crying here....
i know family is involved...but toughen up and take incharge of the situation...tell her ammi
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omg....dude reddd flags...
u need to play hard to get....love hurts, get over it....its probably ur first time in love thats why your crying here....
i know family is involved...but toughen up and take incharge of the situation...tell her ammi
Well her parents and my parents get along tremendously well. The pressure was on me from the day 1 that I saw her to say yes or no and I had to argue with my parents that I have to get to know her before I can make a decision. I wasn't given her phone # but she found me on Linkdin and we started to talk. At first it was really great, we would talk and share memories and hope best for the future. But now that she's in another country she completely lost touch with me. And I know my friends and their fiance are in Pakistan and they talk ALL the time even though there is a time difference. What the hell did I do wrong? And I'm not even in Love with her. You can't fall in Love this quickly, she hasn't even opened up that much. She hasn't said the words yet.