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hello, i’m new.
help me out here. What one should do if he is in a relationship and his spouse dresses very modern. She doesn’t think there is anything wrong the way she dresses, and he finds her style very unbearable. Is divorce the only solution?

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Re: ladies

Hi , I am new too :wave:

You must have checked her styling before getting married . Nooops ? Good for you . At least now you know .

Usually talking stuff out is an option , lets see if you wana try that before getting divorced .

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Re: ladies

could you define modern and unreasonable dressing? .. .. ?? since i have seen people who are okay with typical style of girls in paksitan but for me those are unreasonable .. jeans/shirts are way better than those unreasonable shalwar kameez ..

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and what you do if she dressed properly before you got married to her?

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The whole point was, what you do if man disagrees with his wife on her dressing.
she wears short shorts, tight tops, he doesn't like it. Or if she wears low cut tight dresses, he is not happy. etc

jeans/shirts can be bad depending on how tight they are. How is shalwar kameer unreasonable?

p.s any chance, you post a link to a shalwar kameer that is unreasonable? thank you

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If she is a slut, why did you marry her?

Moreover, what do you call a man who is married to a slut?

And what do you call a man who calls his wife a "slut" online?

Behind her back, I presume.

?

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Seriously?

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Re: ladies

Sara, for the sake of keeping gupshup intact, shut it down...sighz...just shut it down...

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LMAO!!!HAHAHAHAHAHA
okay so i got that out of my system

inzi you should probably talk to her and explain that her style of dressing bothers you and makes you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you could even make a compromise...she could wear her short shorts only when shes at home...or only around other women??

However, i think that divorce sounds a bit too harsh just because someone dresses "unreasonably".

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i never said it's my marriage. it was just a question? problem a lot of desi couples are facing.

I don't know the answer to that.

p.s are you only allowed to questions that are related to you, family or your friends?
Second, someone mentioned closed this thread, becuz it's pointed at women? i don't see anything wrong with this topic.

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yes, i would like to see it. Could you post it? Not that i am saying there arn't any. Just curious what you find unreasonable

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I cannot take this pressure. :bummer::teary2::naak:

rhona pitna wailing hitting the wall

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din the guy know about her wife dressing before they get married?? .. was he that blind 'caz of her hotness or what? and now after couple of years of marriage all of sudden he realized "oh, thats not a girl he wanted to marry", apparently 'caz of dressing??

P.S:
you will find a lot in lahore/karachi if u ever visit some elite gathering in summer @ shalwarkameez stuff

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This topic is NOT related to me or anyone i know closely. But you know, ppl change. Let's make up an situation. You marry a girl back home (india/pakistan), she dressed very well while living there, she comes here and after some time, she starts to dress modern. not covering her hair, chest, arms, legs, etc

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Re: ladies

NaMaan, how do i contact you?

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Re: ladies

then better talk .. talk to her politely .. if things don't work then u may involve parents .. thats it .. no other option i guess ..

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Re: ladies

but does a man have a right to tell her how to dress? i assume most girls dont' like when man tells them what to do? they consider it controlling, backwards, narrow-minded etc.

Plus won't you lose respect for her, knowing she doesn't mind dressing bold.

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LOL...
So in this situation, the girl is completely covered before marriage, then afterwards she's running around in short shorts? lol...

The guy shouldn't divorce her. Talk to her. If that doesn't work... then the guy should walk outside shirtless and in short shorts. He'll get some attention, maybe negative attention. If the wife complains, he can say that he will wear short shorts and show off his chest because if she can do it, so can he. Maybe then she'll rethink her dressing.

Most girls here don't wear a dupatta over their shirt.

After 25 posts you can privately message Nami.

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not really.
just b/c some women don't like that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to your wife.

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now that doesn't make it right, does it?

what if you most girls here start dating, it would acceptable? it should be about right or wrong, not what MOST ppl are doing