He can't demand that she change her style of dressing, but if he is not comfortable with her wearing short shorts, low cut tops etc. then he needs to let her know and let her know his reasons for not liking it. He can say that he will never tell her what to do but that he prefers she doesnt wear that outside the home. In the end its her decision, but honestly what woman who loves her husband isn't willing to compromise on that? If giving up short shorts for her husband (who is not asking for some unreasonable) is that much of an issue...then perhaps clothing is more important to her than the marriage. If she really loves her husband, she would be willing to compromise on a few things (i.e. giving up revealing clothing) because it's not a necessity.
Now if he was asking for her to wear hijab or burqa thats another story....because that has many implications for a woman...whereas giving up revealing clothes doesn't change your life much in anyway.
He can't demand that she change her style of dressing, but if he is not comfortable with her wearing short shorts, low cut tops etc. then he needs to let her know and let her know his reasons for not liking it. He can say that he will never tell her what to do but that he prefers she doesnt wear that outside the home. In the end its her decision, but honestly what woman who loves her husband isn't willing to compromise on that? If giving up short shorts for her husband (who is not asking for some unreasonable) is that much of an issue...then perhaps clothing is more important to her than the marriage. If she really loves her husband, she would be willing to compromise on a few things (i.e. giving up revealing clothing) because it's not a necessity.
Now if he was asking for her to wear hijab or burqa thats another story....because that has many implications for a woman...whereas giving up revealing clothes doesn't change your life much in anyway.
i wouldn't want my wife to wear burqa but is asking your wife to wear dupatta reasonable? ladies (looking to hear ur reply)
what if you most girls here start dating, it would acceptable? it should be about right or wrong, not what MOST ppl are doing
When I made that statement, I meant it for girls who do not wear low cut shirts. Most girls in the West who do not wear low cut shirts, are less likely to wear a dupatta over their chest.
If a girl is wearing a revealing shirt and has to wear a dupatta over it, then she shouldn't have bought that shirt to begin with.
for some reason girls paki especially just loose it big time when they go abroad. I know a family in London, the hubby has same problem… wifee wearing very very low cuts damn revealing, looks sexy also wears hell lotta small shorts and just T’s
the worst part is, she is from some village in pak and LOL God, has now become a “plz for once look at me, i have put so much effort in dressing, or shall i say in revealing my best parts” she roams around in public very freely with her hubby and her hubby looks so angry and frustrated! she came to Dubai and went to a paki restaurant to eat and ALSO wearing mini shorts definitely a mirage in a full jam packed male filled joint!!!
When I made that statement, I meant it for girls who do not wear low cut shirts. Most girls in the West who do not wear low cut shirts, are less likely to wear a dupatta over their chest.
If a girl is wearing a revealing shirt and has to wear a dupatta over it, then she shouldn't have bought that shirt to begin with.
well, i get what you are saying but there are a lot of girls who don't wear low cut but still wear dupatta. You are making it sound like most women who do wear a dupatta is likely due to low cut.
i would say most girls in west don't wear dupatta is b/c it would look weird with jeans and shirt. and they don;t hijab b/c it's uncool, not fashionable etc
^Dupatta isn't really considered proper hijab by people who are seriously into religion, can't really call something that still shows ur hair thru it and has half ur hair poking out the front most of the time hijab.. more of a cultural thing than Islamic imo.
I never wear dupatta.. when I do wear desi clothing I tend to wear looser fitting shalwar khameez/kurta tops anyway and I can't see the point of having to cover my chest twice if it already looks modest (and I'm just not used to having that spare bit of fabric floating about)..
^Dupatta isn't really considered proper hijab by people who are seriously into religion, can't really call something that still shows ur hair thru it and has half ur hair poking out the front most of the time hijab.. more of a cultural thing than Islamic imo.
I never wear dupatta.. when I do wear desi clothing I tend to wear looser fitting shalwar khameez/kurta tops anyway and I can't see the point of having to cover my chest twice if it already looks modest (and I'm just not used to having that spare bit of fabric floating about)..
still better to wear dupatta than not to. just my opinion (not hating)
it's not just about covering your chest, women are suppose to cover their hair too. Am i right on that?
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help me out here. What one should do if he is in a relationship and his spouse dresses very modern. She doesn't think there is anything wrong the way she dresses, and he finds her style very unbearable. Is divorce the only solution?
Its the Circle of Life inzi.
Look, the husband before getting married, thoroughly enjoyed watching other wives and daughters in immodest dressing. Now that he is married, (has a wife and in a few years may have some beautiful daughters too) its his turn to give something back to the world.
still better to wear dupatta than not to. just my opinion (not hating)
it's not just about covering your chest, women are suppose to cover their hair too. Am i right on that?
Yeah..
Can't see the point of covering the chest again if it's already covered in a loose shirt or similar. My mum wears hijab (not dupatta, proper scarf) and like a lot of more religious ppl she thinks if the fabric is transparent there's no point to it except as an accessory or for those who do wear it for idealogical reasons to show they're more connected to their culture..
Anyway, each to their own, I have no problem with dupatta at all, it just doesn't have any religious significance to me.. It's not seen as acceptable for a religious or practising Muslim woman to go out in see thru trousers so why would see thru hijab be Islamic.. all down to perceptions in culture imo.
You made a point about some girls not wanting to wear duppata or hijab as it's seen as unfashionable. In London u see a lot of Arab girls wearing the headscarf in a very fashionable way so while the dupatta might be seen as unfashionable or backward (cos of the length and the fact it's worn with traditional clothing rather than western - but still covered) I don't think u can say the same about the headscarf.. plenty of women do wear it with jeans, trousers, long skirts or even business suits..
I have seen women wearing booty shorts taht are no longer than underwear… (wouldn’t be surprised if it was underwear). One thing I will say, generalization yes, but Pakistani women/desi women do not dress like that.
They’r eprobably wearing knee length or capris and yall are calling them “bootY” shorts
i agree. Most girls in west don’t b/c they wear jeans and shirt, dupatta doesn’t go with jean/shirt, hijab is better. If you are wearing traditional clothes then dupatta is pretty good for me. I guess it comes to down what you are wearning?
i’m not against fashion but i hate girls who won’t even go to 7 11 unless they dress up and put make up on.
seriously, i don’t understand whats the point of attracting others when you are married .. :s .. whats the point of dressing up like that when you know its not good religiously. I duno why ppl feel like doing it .. :s
You have to look at it in the context of the situation. Maybe in Pakistan going out without a dupatta on your head or wearing jeans and a t-shirt or full sleeves shirt would be considered immodest (even if the jeans were not too fitted).
However, here in the west...wearing jeans and a t-shirt are probably as modest as you can get. If you saw some of the things women walk around wearing in the summers here....you'd gladly accept jeans and a t-shirt from your wife. Women walk around in the west wearing practically nothing...so really jeans and a t-shirt I think are modest enough attire. Therefore I also think in the west there isnt as much of a need to "cover up" with hijab and burqa because if you are wearing jeans and a shirt you are already more covered up then 90% of the women on the street.
wears hell lotta small shorts and just T’s
definitely a mirage in a full jam packed male filled joint!!!