Re: ladies…what wud u call
Hmmm..i was also not taking it seriously but her expressions make me feel that she isn’t comfortable with my calling her Baji..dont know whats the big deal in it. 
ok i will talk to her 
thats what i was doing but i felt she isn’t comfortable with it…
Re: ladies...what wud u call
calling her **baji **will be the start of end of the world.
Re: ladies…what wud u call
sooooooo true…
Re: ladies...what wud u call
Better to ask her.
Re: ladies...what wud u call
You don't really need to change what you call her, do you?
Re: ladies...what wud u call
It should always be whatever both parties are comfortable with. At an older age, some females prefer to be called by their first name and don't take offence at all, rather they like it if someone younger refers to them by name. In in-laws, the safest bet is always by the rishta they have. Now I have a mumani from my husband's side with three kids and she apparently insists that people call her baji. I was told specifically by MamooJan when I asked him how his wife, ______ mami, was doing that if I call her that she won't like it. At the time Ammi (MIL) was sitting around too and she laughingly agreed that Mami likes to be called "Baji" by all. So I refer to her as that on her face. Amongst inlaws such as MIL and husband etc I still call her Mami whenever I do refer to her because I feel it is respectful.
Always remember, this is something I do as well, that if you give respect, you shall receive it. And attaching relationship alongside name gives a verbal impression of respect. I told my husband and Ammi (MIL) in a tactful conversational manner once that I liked it when my Devar called me Bhabi. Before that he used to call me by name, and I didn't like it as such even though he's a year older. So you give respect, then you always get it.
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This is what I meant by some females at an older age prefer to be called by first name by younger ones, it makes them feel younger too. Ask her tactfully , something along the lines of “You are so young I sometimes almost slip up and call you by your first name, then I correct myself since I never called you that before. Is it ok if I start doing that or are you happy with Baji?”
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Or
"X (husband) calls you by your first name and because of that I sometimes also nearly slip up and call you that too. But I dont since I never did that before. But shall i address you as X does? You're so young / close to my age that it seems more apt"
Re: ladies...what wud u call
calling her **baji **will be the start of end of the world.
or start of the 4rth world war :p
Re: ladies…what wud u call
just by her name if there isnot a big age difference.
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She's older. Call her baji or something. Why would she mind? She's older. End of the story.
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that I liked it when my Devar called me Bhabi. Before that he used to call me by name, and I didn't like it as such even though he's a year older. So you give respect, then you always get it.
Same here. Im used to being called by my name and I don't mnid, but someone calling me bhabi is quite nice. I really like it :)