Hi All,
I have a friend, Sarah, and she’s severely gotten depressed, she’s 26 years old, isn’t married yet. From what i know her parents are looking for her, but so far have not found anyone, they have been sending her picture and biodata and still no luck. Sarah is getting more and more depressed day by day. she works at a fortune 500 firm as an analyst and is very pretty MA. I know her from work as well as the fact that our families are friends. at work she’s bubbly, warm caring, knowledgeable, etc. but when she leaves the office, she’s quiet, doesn’t want to talk, and according to her is the ugliest girl in the world. Honestly, she freaking reminds be of katrina kaif and looks kinda like her, so i don’t understand why she feels soo ugly.
Over lunch last week, i was talking to her and asking her about this party we both are invited to on New Year’s eve, sarah told me she doesn’t want to go, when i asked her why she said, what difference does it make and then told me that lately she doesn’t want to go anywhere. yesterday, i stopped by her house and she had been crying, when i asked her if she was crying she said no she had just come from the gym (which sweat and tears are two very different things).
A while back we were looking at old photographs and i when she saw a picture of herself she told me to tear it up, and then broke down crying again. SHe’s not herself anymore. She acts it all up in the office like nothing is bothering her, but something is. Lately, she has gotten too busy to hang out with friends, complains that she’s gained some weight, and that she’s ugly. Also, any of the activites she used to enjoy like watching movies, (especially with John Abraham and Salman Khan) , dancing, going to the mall, planning trips, looking forward to desi parties, those hold no meaning to her anymore, On top of that whenever her parents say that a rishta is coming over, she says “does it matter they won’t want me.” Her mom says that she becomes her normal self when a rishta does come over, and when they dont call back like a week or two afterwards then she gets depressed again.
Sarah is the warm,caring, helpful and just bubbly, happy go lucky kinda girl. Yes mostly all of our family firned’s kids have gotten married, which leaves sarah that’s un married, and i keep telling her that she’s just has to wait, she’s get the best rishta of all of us. i don’t know what to do. I knwo she has been there for me when i needed her, and i know that 2009 has not been kind to her, she lost her grandma to cancer, and now her dad has cancer as well, but i feel like she’s loosing it.
today, when i got back from lunch i went to the bathroom and she was inside the stall crying, and when i asked her why she said it was nothing. I talked to her mom a couple days ago and her mom said she’s worried about her too, her mom’s direct words are “bachari bachi itna kaam kur re hai, Allah kab is co reward dai ga.” I know the whole reason she’s upset is because her life is upside down and that she’s not married. SHe told me at her age, she expected to be married already and by this time she was hoping shed be expecting her first child.
Guys I need help, and sorry to say it but her parents nor her believe in psychologists, so any suggestions of taking her to see one will be dismissed.
I hate to sound dramatic, but she’s living on the outside, but slowly fading on the inside. Please offer me any suggestions to bring my friend back to life, and honestly i wouldn’t care if it was anyone else, she doesn’t want to talk at all, and keeps crying, i even tried asking her to go to starbucks, and she was like noo i don’t want to get more fatter. She’s been there for me when no one else was so i need some advice.
