Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
paradise is so easily prohibited at any small thing.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Just because you take your husband’s last name doesn’t mean you’re attributing yourself to someone other than your father! What you have quoted are totally irrelevant hadiths. A lot of women don’t even have surnames like their dad’s. They often have surnames like Fatima, Zahra and the list goes on. That doesn’t mean they are committing kufr! Just because you change your name doesn’t mean you’re claiming your lineage is from your husband’s family. It doesn’t mean you’re denying you are your father’s child! So many people have the last name Khan…does that name really prove your lineage?? It’s just a name!! Changing your last name has nothing to do with the fact that you’re no longer ‘related’ to your father or you’re denying your lineage!
And the verse in Surah Ahzab is specifically for orphans. Stop taking these verses out of context. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with keeping your maiden name. But please don’t go ahead and make ridiculous claims that it’s haram if you’ve chosen to have one family name for your entire family.
Also, if you’re talking about imitation, then we’re all guilty of that living in the West. Why did we start wearing trousers? Why do some people celebrate Thanksgiving? Why do so many Muslims take part in trick or treating??? Why so we have bank accounts with interest rates?! There is no end to this list! You can’t choose to get involved in some things that are CLEARLY a non-Muslim tradition, then look back and point fingers at other things when they don’t suit your needs.
The bottom line is changing your name has nothing to do with religion. Islam is a very straight forward religion and I don’t think it can be bothered about such petty issues.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
All it says is claim,attribute,belong to someone other than father…it doesn’t say about ‘name’…do u think that only name is the sole indication of a persons belonging/attribute/relation? No…name is just a name…so all your analogy is basically based on an assumption that changing name means changing your lineage…which quite a naive assumptions.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
I didn't change my name after getting married for a few reasons. A) I wasn't bothered to go through all the paperwork changing my passport , licenses , etc. B) I'd been working for a while and i'd have to update all my work documents too which would have been annoying C) I've always been Jane smith and couldn't imagine having any other name, to me it's as weird as if after 25 hrs I changed my first name, I just wouldn't recognise it. Although my name doesn't carry my whole identity it does in part like all the mean nicknames people used in school etc heheh.
I get what people are saying about men not taking womens name etc and how it's a display of gender inequality. Well yeh it is but one of many aspects of the double standard, unfortunately it's a mans world so yeh it probably won't change but it's a valid point.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Just because you take your husband's last name doesn't mean you're attributing yourself to someone other than your father!
I totally agree. The hadees that is quoted does not prove that taking on your hubby's last name is attributing yourself to someone else in fatherhood.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
how on God's earth , taking your husband's name as your last name after marriage is haram ?
Just explain this in simple words for me - please !
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Using ur father's name in Islam is to do with making ur lineage clear and am sure the majority view amongst the scholars is that it is haram to take just husband's name as ur surname but then it's down to us if we choose to follow or not..
Quite a lot of Bangladeshi women don't use their husband's name and neither do their daughters (just 'Begum') so it's sooo confusing trying to work out who is married to who and which kids belong to which mothers, which ones are siblings and so on..
I'd hate to have a different name to my husband or kids.. maybe double-barrelled would be a compromise tho.. I don't like the idea of the family name just being passed down thru the sons..
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Just because you take your husband's last name doesn't mean you're attributing yourself to someone other than your father! What you have quoted are totally irrelevant hadiths. A lot of women don't even have surnames like their dad's. They often have surnames like Fatima, Zahra and the list goes on. That doesn't mean they are committing kufr! Just because you change your name doesn't mean you're claiming your lineage is from your husband's family. It doesn't mean you're denying you are your father's child! So many people have the last name Khan....does that name really prove your lineage?? It's just a name!! Changing your last name has nothing to do with the fact that you're no longer 'related' to your father or you're denying your lineage!
And the verse in Surah Ahzab is specifically for orphans. Stop taking these verses out of context. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with keeping your maiden name. But please don't go ahead and make ridiculous claims that it's haram if you've chosen to have one family name for your entire family.
Also, if you're talking about imitation, then we're all guilty of that living in the West. Why did we start wearing trousers? Why do some people celebrate Thanksgiving? Why do so many Muslims take part in trick or treating??? Why so we have bank accounts with interest rates?! There is no end to this list! You can't choose to get involved in some things that are CLEARLY a non-Muslim tradition, then look back and point fingers at other things when they don't suit your needs.
The bottom line is changing your name has nothing to do with religion. Islam is a very straight forward religion and I don't think it can be bothered about such petty issues.
All it says is claim,attribute,belong to someone other than father........it doesn't say about 'name'......do u think that only name is the sole indication of a persons belonging/attribute/relation? No...name is just a name.....so all your analogy is basically based on an assumption that changing name means changing your lineage.....which quite a naive assumptions.
I totally agree. The hadees that is quoted does not prove that taking on your hubby's last name is attributing yourself to someone else in fatherhood.
how on God's earth , taking your husband's name as your last name after marriage is haram ?
Just explain this in simple words for me - please !
Sigh. This is going to be my last post cos you guys are not interested in being convinced and you are not going to convince me either of it being halal. To me the evidence is pretty clear. I'm curious to know though how many of you have actually researched this topic before stating its not haraam. Are you saying its not haraam after having done some research on it or cos you genuinely believe its not, without actually bothering to even find out? And you may or may not want to know that the references to hadith and quran were all taken from several different websites where scholars were making clear this issue to people who had enquired about it. I'm sure the scholars being as learned as they are know more than either you or I.
NomiCA, assumptions? what? Everything I said was based on what scholars say on this issue, if you think they too are making assumptions, go take it up with them.
And Naabigh, haraam is something not allowed, halal is something allowed. If you do some research, you'll find people (SCHOLARS) tend to say its haraam. Seriously what is so hard to understand about that? Haraam doesnt just apply to the obvious like eating pork or commiting adultery etc.
Good day to you all and goodbye.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
There are two kinds of women in this world, ones who change their name after marriage.
And ones who changed their husband.
my child ......
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Sigh. This is going to be my last post cos you guys are not interested in being convinced and you are not going to convince me either of it being halal. To me the evidence is pretty clear. I'm curious to know though how many of you have actually researched this topic before stating its not haraam. Are you saying its not haraam after having done some research on it or cos you genuinely believe its not, without actually bothering to even find out? And you may or may not want to know that the references to hadith and quran were all taken from several different websites where scholars were making clear this issue to people who had enquired about it. I'm sure the scholars being as learned as they are know more than either you or I. NomiCA, assumptions? what? Everything I said was based on what scholars say on this issue, if you think they too are making assumptions, go take it up with them. And Naabigh, haraam is something not allowed, halal is something allowed. If you do some research, you'll find people (SCHOLARS) tend to say its haraam. Seriously what is so hard to understand about that? Haraam doesnt just apply to the obvious like eating pork or commiting adultery etc. Good day to you all and goodbye.
I have done enough research and my research is not only limited to Internet sources where there is a plethora of unreliable information. These so called scholars on Internet websites can make whatever claims they want and gullible people blindly end up following that advice. Why don't you ask the real Alims of Islam who actually have spend decades studying Islam and are truly experts in their field? Muslim converts change their name all the time. Do you think Yusuf Islam is denying his lineage? Do you think Hamza Yusuf is denying his lineage??? So all these great scholars who have spent years studying Islam are doing something haram? And no, nowhere does it say in Islam to change your name to a Muslim one when you convert so that argument won't go very well here.
I also know a very basic thing about Islam.....don't claim something is haram unless Islam has explicitly told you to do so in the Quran or Hadith. That is actually a very immoral thing to do. Islam has clearly stated what is forbidden and for everything else, it has told us to use our common sense, something our desi community greatly lacks. Whatever Hadiths and Quranic verses you quoted have absolutely nothing to do with a last name. As I said, people have last names that honestly have nothing to do with their father's lineage. Denying your lineage and changing your last name are two VERY different things. Your name doesn't prove lineage! If it did, all the Khans, Ahmeds, etc. would be from the same place and family yet they're not.
I really hope people stop making trivial things a matter of halal and haram and actually focus on the true spirit of Islam. This makes a mockery of our religion.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
I think the OPs original question was did you change your name and why or why not. There are many things in islam which people interpret differently; I've heard imams say it's haraam to thread your eyebrows and some say it's not, I've heard some say men have to wear trousers that show their ankles and some say different. Similarly it's possible that this is another one of those issues where there is no general consensus. As long as nobody is forcing you to believe it is haraam then live and let live. If certain people did not change their names because based on their research or interpretation or advice from an imam (as one poster explained) then those are their reasons and they are entitled to it and you are entitled to believe differently.