Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Everyone will be called by their mother's name, not father's.
errrr.. lol
this thread is becoming all personal but a big NO to this. Where'd you get this info??
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
well - i guess girls should not change their name !!
what if khud na khuuasta Tallak ho jayee
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^then they change it again, if they want.
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Why are people getting so rebellious and offended?
You guys do know that women in West (talking about non Muslim and non desis) happily take their husband’s surname in marriage? Those women are physically and mentally are actually the real products of liberated, secular and feminist society/households (comapre to most NRP's), yet they submit themselves to this tradition because it obviously symbolises something for them. So can you please stop giving an insulting and desperate spin on this practice, by saying that woman becomes man’s property by taking his surname. Mrs Robert, my next door neighbour will probably divorce Mr Robert the minute he makes the mistake of uttering that garbage.
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^It IS symbolic. Just because non-muslim, non-desi Western women do it happily, doesn't make it right. Just because people don't want to understand that in context of history, doesn't make it garbage.
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Ever heard of saying, jab mia biwi raazi tou kya kare ga qazi? (that should really be the bottom line of this discussion) As long as those women do it happily, who are me or you to whinge that its not right? I'm not talking about teenage girls or culturaly oppressed desi women, I'm talking about mature, independent, finely educated secular women of feminist conscious society who are old enough to make their own choice to suit themselves. On the same token, I'd assume the couple are mature and liberated enough to not get all militant about what this practice means in historical context, instead work out how this practice defines themsleves as a couple in today's world. What good does it bring to their relationship, their personal lives. It's all personal at the end of the day.
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I hyphenated my maiden name with my husband's last name which happens to be his dad's first name.
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Ladies should take their hubby's last name, cook and clean for him, raise his kids and never demand for anything in return.
Bas, Keh diya.
Capish.
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Never were more truer words spoken, Ameen! ^
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Why does everything come down to religion for you people? Our religion is not so petty as to focus on such frivolous things. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a wife taking her husband's surname or keeping her name. To each his own!
I can't believe some people are saying it's "haraam" to change your name. It's a cultural thing. Saudi women don't change their surnames but Saudis women do a lot of things that has nothing to do with Islam. However even in Arab countries like Syria and Jordan, women change their last names. It's just more convenient for everyone to have the same last name.
If you want to keep your father's name because you want to prove how much you love him or you want to prove you're not your husband's property or you want to prove you have your own identity then by all means do that. But changing your name doesn't guarantee that. Saudi women don't change their names yet the way a lot of them are treated by their men is horrific! I've lived in Saudi and I've worked with their cases. Granted, abuse is widespread but please don't associate keeping your maiden name with freedom, proving your love to your father, or maintaining your identity. That is really immature thinking.
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^^^ Saying its freedom, love for the father, ego are all pretty stupid reasons I think and so is labelling it as "haram". Its simply a personal choice but I also believe that Islam "prefers" keeping maiden name. In the end like I said its all a personal choice. By chaning your name you don't become the guy's property by not chaning doesn't mean you don't love him.
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I change my naem on my facebook, isn’t that enough 
running of to change myk name on my facebook
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^^^ Saying its freedom, love for the father, ego are all pretty stupid reasons I think and so is labelling it as "haram". Its simply a personal choice but I also believe that Islam "prefers" keeping maiden name. In the end like I said its all a personal choice. By chaning your name you don't become the guy's property by not chaning doesn't mean you don't love him.
I honestly don't think Islam prefers it one way or the other. I think Islam has absolutely no preference regarding this trivial issue. People just like to create issues for no reason....
Just because you change your name to your husband's doesn't mean that on the day of judgment, you won't be called upon because they won't be able to locate your name!!!! Seriously?!?! I think Allah is well aware of your father and your lineage regardless of whether you change your last name or not!
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Didn't Jay Z take his wifes last name?
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Just another thread to further the feminist agenda…no purpose whatsoever. 
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Why does everything come down to religion for you people? Our religion is not so petty as to focus on such frivolous things. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a wife taking her husband's surname or keeping her name. To each his own!
I can't believe some people are saying it's "haraam" to change your name. It's a cultural thing. Saudi women don't change their surnames but Saudis women do a lot of things that has nothing to do with Islam. However even in Arab countries like Syria and Jordan, women change their last names. It's just more convenient for everyone to have the same last name.
If you want to keep your father's name because you want to prove how much you love him or you want to prove you're not your husband's property or you want to prove you have your own identity then by all means do that. But changing your name doesn't guarantee that. Saudi women don't change their names yet the way a lot of them are treated by their men is horrific! I've lived in Saudi and I've worked with their cases. Granted, abuse is widespread but please don't associate keeping your maiden name with freedom, proving your love to your father, or maintaining your identity. That is really immature thinking.
It IS haram, thats the whole point of saying so. If you do some research on it you will find this out. It has nothing to do with showing you love your father, feminism or ego or blah blah, it has to do with Islam disapproving of it. What's so hard to understand about that?
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^ umm NO it is not haram. Please stop making Islam more complicated that it really is. The only things that are haram or forbidden in Islam are the ones explicitly stated in the Quran and Hadith.
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Umm YES it is.
Allah said in the Quran, “Proclaim their (children’s) real parentage.” 33:5
Our Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) said “whoever intentionally related himself/herself to someone else instead of their father, Paradise is prohibited for him” Bukhari and Muslim.
Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.”
It is not permissible for a Muslim woman who gets married to change her name. This is because Allaah Subhaanahu wa ta’alaa commands us to call people with their father’s name.
“Call them by (the names of) their fathers: that is more just with Allâh. But if you know not their father’s (names, call them your brothers in faith and MawâlIkum (your freed slaves)…” (Al Ahzab:5)
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever claims knowingly to belong to someone other than his father will be denied Paradise.” narrated al-Bukhaari and Muslim
He also said: “Whoever claims to belong to someone other than his father, will be cursed by Allaah, the angels and all the people, and Allaah will not accept any deeds or excuses from him on the Day of Resurrection.” narrated Muslim.
This is also an imitation of non-Muslims as this is a tradition amongst them and was not known amongst the earlier Muslims. Imitating the non-Muslims is not permissible, especially when it contradicts an order or advice from Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Be different from the mushrikeen” Al-Bukhari.
And if that isn’t enough evidence for you, here is a link to a page that explains pretty well why changing the surname after marriage is HARAAM -
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I would never change my name. maybe hyphen it. but then so should he?
We remain the person we are. My identity is not my husband's.
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Double post