Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Wha? Who said its haram?
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Aray Gulabo is a proper name. I know a guy called Gulabo Khan .
WTH are you talking about Hareem 
Please phainkaa phankee na kiya karain fuzool main.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Wha? Who said its haram?
Ask any knowledgeable person in Islamic Law and History(doesn't have to be a muslim) and he can tell you this.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Bhai I’m not telling you to change your wife’s surname back to her original name. This is what I know and this is what I believe in coz it makes sense to me.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Oh and I'm not saying that I'm better than those who take their husband's name, I'm simply answering a question and I don't intent to force my views and belief on others, you guys are well educated so do your own research to find what's right and what's wrong. I'm not replying to anymore questions in this thread as I don't want others to take this personally. Thanks
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
I own woman. Woman take man name.
*beats chest
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Alright!!
It is an ego issue. Lol. If he doesn't, why should I?
I wouldn't mind either way. What's the harm in making the kid happy?
I rather be uncompromising on so many other issues that women actually end up compromising on. This 'battle' is not worth it.
However, I probably will not change it in the work and career arena if I'm already established by then.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
No, it is more of an identity and equality issue.
Yes, name change works when you have a family. You are all known as the Smith family. But why must the woman change her name? It is like saying, “hey, you are not your dad’s property anymore, you are your husband’s.” The idea of being recognized by your husband’s name is basically saying “Property of Mr. Blah” (It is different with your dad’s name. He is your father and the question of equality doesn’t lie here).
Why would any man want his wife to not have an identity of her own? Yes, it sounds sweet and all, but if you can accept that a woman is an individual, why continue a primitive tradition of referring to her as someone’s wife, as opposed to by who SHE is.
In social settings, men are rarely referred to as “Mr. Ayesha Khan”. That only happens a) as a joke or b) if more people in that setting know the wife, and husband needs to be introduced.
There is a thought for all those who think a woman’s change of name is not an equality issue; why doesn’t the couple hyphenate both their last names as the family last name, i.e. Smith-Khan? Or come up with something original.
Or, humour me here, take on wife’s last name.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
when i get married i would do it happily lol for sure ^_^ hehe
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
isn't it true that everyone will be called with the name of their father on the day of judgement? if husband's name was of any importance then why wouldn't that happen? I believe it's more of the lineage than just "attributing to oneself to someone" if adopted children are required to keep the name of their father then it only makes sense that a woman should keep her father's name as well.
ps: selective reading and quoting from the whole article just because you didn't agree with one sentence.. how smart!!!
Everyone will be called by their mother's name, not father's.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
i dont mind its only matter of LOVE .............sur name change honay se main nahin badal jaongi na hi mein apnay parents se door hongi Haan bas apnay shohar ko aik TRUST ka ehsaas zaroor dongi k Ap ka naam meray Naam se Jura or im all URS .........;)
TOtally agreed ^_^
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Why would any man want his wife to not have an identity of her own?
if men were treating women as their property, they would be expecting her to change her first name, not the last name.
Pets are properties so when you buy a cat from me and I was calling the cat Paws, you can call the cat Spots. That is what owning means. Lats name does not mean that now you own that person.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
exactly what Hareem said, i didnt change my surname after marrying cos its haraam. So it actually had nothing to do with personal choice or ego, it being haraam to do so meant there was no choice. Whats so hard to understand about that?
I can see that people would find it odd being addressed as Mrs...insert dads name but i just refer to myself as Ms rather than Mrs lol.
TLK Bhai, some of your posts came across to me as defensive, maybe cos Bahji Niksik changed her last name, like Hareem said, you're not being judged etc, live and let live i say :-)
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
if men were treating women as their property, they would be expecting her to change her first name, not the last name.
Pets are properties so when you buy a cat from me and I was calling the cat Paws, you can call the cat Spots. That is what owning means. Lats name does not mean that now you own that person.
Well in some families isn't it common for the in laws to change the bahu's name? by your logic does that not come under treating women as property?
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
No I am not being defensive, I am the only guy here that is why it seems that way.
Ok so let me ask you a hypothetical question. lets say that a very young girl lost her father, mother remarried. Now mother does not want daughter to have a different last name than her current husband (just so loug sawal naa poochain zyada, not that she is trying to hide but you know how our people start asking questions). Can that girl take her step father’s name as her last name now?
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Well in some families isn't it common for the in laws to change the bahu's name?
what? you mean the first name! .. never heard of that.
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
^ Ive heard of that
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Hai kitney mazeyy ki thread hai 
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Any more proof if needed..^ Women = Gossip
:p
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Any more proof if needed..^ Women = Gossip
:p