sazzie
November 7, 2010, 4:22pm
136
Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?
Why does everything come down to religion for you people? Our religion is not so petty as to focus on such frivolous things. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a wife taking her husband’s surname or keeping her name. To each his own!
I can’t believe some people are saying it’s “haraam” to change your name. It’s a cultural thing. Saudi women don’t change their surnames but Saudis women do a lot of things that has nothing to do with Islam. However even in Arab countries like Syria and Jordan, women change their last names. It’s just more convenient for everyone to have the same last name.
If you want to keep your father’s name because you want to prove how much you love him or you want to prove you’re not your husband’s property or you want to prove you have your own identity then by all means do that. But changing your name doesn’t guarantee that. Saudi women don’t change their names yet the way a lot of them are treated by their men is horrific! I’ve lived in Saudi and I’ve worked with their cases. Granted, abuse is widespread but please don’t associate keeping your maiden name with freedom, proving your love to your father, or maintaining your identity. That is really immature thinking.
It IS haram, thats the whole point of saying so. If you do some research on it you will find this out. It has nothing to do with showing you love your father, feminism or ego or blah blah, it has to do with Islam disapproving of it. What’s so hard to understand about that?