I think people need to grow out of this mentality that women are not supposed to have desires or not in the mood, or that all men are after sex and just horndogs. All it does is apply the unfair burden of morality soley on the women, while dismissing men as uncontrollable animals.
You know sara there are 2 kind of ppl smart/considerate and non considerate.
No matter, how much enforcement a non considerate person gets from religon for his ideas, his relation will suffer. I mean no matter what imam masjid tell him.
And considerate ppl will enjoy a more healthy relation.