Ladies and guys please read, cheating gf

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Sorry, this is going to be like a long essay but I hope you guys go through it and give me some suggestions on like how to confront this problem. Basically Im from America and few years back I went to Pakistan where my family lives and met this girl or woman who you can say is our relatives. We both in 20s. She had recently gotten divorced from very brief marriage like less than a month because the guy allegedly was khusra ( as in like incapable of sex), she and her family say they did not know of this until after the marriage ofcourse. Even other people suspect the guy is probably khusra( sex wise only). Apparently it is still the guy’s family who divorced her. There may have been other causes but I do not know.

After a while since we both had lot of interaction with each other (live in close proximity, familes know each other), I got her number , we became friends etc. It didn’t take long to start talking on phone regularly, seeing each other, and having sex regularly. I had two more visits to Pakistan in which time we kept seeing each other. I think she got too close because I’m from abroad, family fairly well off, and she wanted like marriage with me etc. Fast farward to it now I’m in US, having some issues until then I cannot go back, although we have been talking regularly, recently she has been giving me small hints and threats without saying clearly that she will contemplate another friendship/marriage if I don’t fix myself because I pressure her, I don’t give her space and and that I need to act fast for her proposal because she and her family have been holding off other proposols for her.I actually did contemplate of marrying her but I feel blessed now because I found out she is a big freaking liar and cheater. Im currently in America, I recently tricked her into getting access to her mobile history online, I have been able to view bunch of numbers where she regularly makes calls. All this time she had told me there is no other guy besides me she talks to. Big lie because on some occaisions when her number is busy, she won’t pick up, I call one of her new lover’s number, it’s busy too. Right when she picks my call, I try his number from other line no longer busy and some DUDE picks up. It has happened few times. If I asked her after who she was talking to, she said my sister, my lady friend etc. One time I pressured her into giving me this lady friend’s number, when I called the number, no such number existed. So far there are three numbers where she talks regularly who are guys whose numbers were busy when hers was. I have made her swear on Allah, on her mother etc, and she will do it without any regard and lie about it. Im so baffled because her mother is living, how can she swear on her and freaking lie about it. Before all this she had told me the khusra guy who married her, never touched her in any of her private parts, I made her swear on different people, things and she did. I hesitantly believed her back then but heck even if he was Khusra, he would’ve played with her now that I think about it. She has told me she never had sex with anyone else, after all her lies I am 99.99% certain she has ****ed other guys. For example, When we had sex for the first time, she did not bleed, only makes me doubt her more, yet she kept saying she was virgin,

I have managed to find someone who is going to give me all her and the guys she talks to all their phone details( including complete sms) . My question is is it worth going this route or should I just forget it and move on with my life? Like I can only think finding out more about her and her lovers will do me more bad than good. Or do you guys think I should pursue with this detailed call history, sms and confront her? In the hope that she will then stop talking with them to keep me ( she after all is more interested in me for financial reasons. But then I think once a cheater always a cheater. Or option B for me is just pretend I don’t know anything and just keep playing her, and *ing her whenever I go back? Because she has clearly been playing and *ing with me! Or I can take it further and eventually persue marriage with her and then divorce. This will essentially ruin her life because after being divorced twice, nobody sane will marry her again.

I will welcome all replies. I know some might criticize me for this aggressive type thinking, I will consider following a more sensible route if you believe in my situation you could truly do the same. Thanks

First of all in my thinking she has a habbit of making boy friends and just i dont know why Naouzbillah....

she took divorce from a man becuase he is impetent as per her statement.. hahahahaha this is really very very natural for a girl when she dont want to live with someone she uses the same weapon and easly get sperated from everything and pretend to be innocent and kid.... hahahaha

ye sab ase hi hote hain, sab ki sab .... kisi ka koi tareekah ai kisi ka koi aur koi to saath reh ke dhoke deti hain ...

anyway aap please tension na le acha hua aap ko pata lag gaya jaan choot gayi ase shakhs se please move kere age life me aap ko buhat kuch acha mile ga inshallah..

gaurantee naih na kal ko aap se shadi ho jaati aur aap bahir aur ghar me koi aur.. to phir kya kerte wether kill urself or kill her.. right.. so please pyar apni jaga per us se door ho jaye ase shakhs pe kabhi aitbaar na kere jo aap ki care hi nahi kerta wo kabhi bhi nahi kere ga yaad rakhe chahe wo koi bhi hooo....

aap ko samajh jana chahieytha ke jis aurat ne mard ki izzat ko uchaal ke talaak le li us se age kya gandagi ho sakti hai ....

[mimi7]

Ladies and guys please read, cheating gf

Omdz the way you actually think that she deserves bad stuff happening to her and you should take revenge is what's annoying me. Anyways it's not like you're an angel. It takes two to tango and so obviously you were sleeping around with her as well. Fair enough she's talking to other guys but it's not like both of you are married that you have any sort of say in what she does. The fact that you're both sleeping around with each other without being married and then you saying that she's the slut just baffles me tbh.

[vempire]

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revenge cant take you to the end... ignore her thats it dont talk to her finish everything with her.. the girl sleeping with you before mariage yaar aap bhi us ke saath serious ho. jo larki aap ke saath kya yaar dont be fool man, dont beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee..... if she was sicnere to you she will never ever touch you even ... choro yaar

meri baatein bur lage gi per sachai ye ha aaj kal larkiya yehi sab pasand kerti hain bassssssssssssssssssss cartoon style, wornderful sleeping partner, rich, handsom looks ( optional ), should have car to wander around with her....

shee. kuch log yaha ase bhi honge jo soch rahe hnge ke me kesi soch ka admi ho right.. just chill hena ... chill ke chakkar me kabar me chilling ho jaye gi :P yaad arkhna kabar ka andhera kabhi mat bholo jab bhi bura kaam kerne ko dil kere to ...

[AhmedFayyaz]

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Sorry, this is going to be like a long essay but I hope you guys go through it and give me some suggestions on like how to confront this problem. Basically Im from America and few years back I went to Pakistan where my family lives and met this girl or woman who you can say is our relatives. We both in 20s. She had recently gotten divorced from very brief marriage like less than a month because the guy allegedly was khusra ( as in like incapable of sex), she and her family say they did not know of this until after the marriage ofcourse. Even other people suspect the guy is probably khusra( sex wise only). Apparently it is still the guy’s family who divorced her. There may have been other causes but I do not know.

After a while since we both had lot of interaction with each other (live in close proximity, familes know each other), I got her number , we became friends etc. It didn’t take long to start talking on phone regularly, seeing each other, and having sex regularly. I had two more visits to Pakistan in which time we kept seeing each other. I think she got too close because I’m from abroad, family fairly well off, and she wanted like marriage with me etc. Fast farward to it now I’m in US, having some issues until then I cannot go back, although we have been talking regularly, recently she has been giving me small hints and threats without saying clearly that she will contemplate another friendship/marriage if I don’t fix myself because I pressure her, I don’t give her space and and that I need to act fast for her proposal because she and her family have been holding off other proposols for her.I actually did contemplate of marrying her but I feel blessed now because I found out she is a big freaking liar and cheater. Im currently in America, I recently tricked her into getting access to her mobile history online, I have been able to view bunch of numbers where she regularly makes calls. All this time she had told me there is no other guy besides me she talks to. Big lie because on some occaisions when her number is busy, she won’t pick up, I call one of her new lover’s number, it’s busy too. Right when she picks my call, I try his number from other line no longer busy and some DUDE picks up. It has happened few times. If I asked her after who she was talking to, she said my sister, my lady friend etc. One time I pressured her into giving me this lady friend’s number, when I called the number, no such number existed. So far there are three numbers where she talks regularly who are guys whose numbers were busy when hers was. I have made her swear on Allah, on her mother etc, and she will do it without any regard and lie about it. Im so baffled because her mother is living, how can she swear on her and freaking lie about it. Before all this she had told me the khusra guy who married her, never touched her in any of her private parts, I made her swear on different people, things and she did. I hesitantly believed her back then but heck even if he was Khusra, he would’ve played with her now that I think about it. She has told me she never had sex with anyone else, after all her lies I am 99.99% certain she has ****ed other guys. For example, When we had sex for the first time, she did not bleed, only makes me doubt her more, yet she kept saying she was virgin,

I have managed to find someone who is going to give me all her and the guys she talks to all their phone details( including complete sms) . My question is is it worth going this route or should I just forget it and move on with my life? Like I can only think finding out more about her and her lovers will do me more bad than good. Or do you guys think I should pursue with this detailed call history, sms and confront her? In the hope that she will then stop talking with them to keep me ( she after all is more interested in me for financial reasons. But then I think once a cheater always a cheater. Or option B for me is just pretend I don’t know anything and just keep playing her, and *ing her whenever I go back? Because she has clearly been playing and *ing with me! Or I can take it further and eventually persue marriage with her and then divorce. This will essentially ruin her life because after being divorced twice, nobody sane will marry her again.

I will welcome all replies. I know some might criticize me for this aggressive type thinking, I will consider following a more sensible route if you believe in my situation you could truly do the same. Thanks

Dude, you shuldhv made her swear upon your sur.And thn they brap A person's whole intellectual make-up bears the clear imprint of the life of society as a whole. Off the freshy board parhay likhay ABCD's janwars...PC!

If it's a genuine question then run away as quick as you can...she is not marriage material.

She is not as if he is, Talli do hath se bajay hai Khan Babbu!

[AndyPandy]

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Wow you must be fun at parties. Manipulating and pressuring people. Grow up already, seriously. ( Also as a side note. If she didn't bleed it doesn't matter. Not every woman bleeds after losing her virginity)

[Deeba1234]

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@mimi7

Omdz the way you actually think that she deserves bad stuff happening to her and you should take revenge is what’s annoying me.** Anyways it’s not like you’re an angel. It takes two to tango and so obviously you were sleeping around with her as well.** Fair enough she’s talking to other guys but it’s not like both of you are married that you have any sort of say in what she does. The fact that** you’re both sleeping around with each other without being married and then you saying that she’s the slut just baffles me tbh.**

Agree..

Also what about his family and friends who’d be part of the wedding and contributing as well, or are they part of his “great” revenge plan too And gold and other wedding expenses? The whole thing is just twisted..

[Reha]

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@billucdnboy

@ TLK, I would’ve respected her trust of me if I felt I was the ONLY one she trusted her body with, but Im so sure theres also others shes been doing this maza with, so I have no respect for her.

So let me get this straight…if you sleep with her its sincere. If she sleep with you, its maza? Why are you surprised she decided to look around for other options? I am not. She should have kept her options open if this is your mentality.

@rosedreams and mimi7, Im glad I acted in this ‘psycho’ way because otherwise I would’ve bestowed upon myself a slut wife and a slut daughter in law to my family. Im happy I acted upon my suspicions and found the truth rather than if it was after marriage. If everybody was a fool to put blind trust in a relationship, there would be no posts of cheating gf, bf, cheating wives, husbands and they would just keep playing with you. Its good I found the truth now than later because now I can play with her.

You aren’t doing yourself a favor by playing with her. If she’s a slut, you’re no better because you slept with her outside of wedlock. You’re the same. The difference is…you’re a guy and one that cannot be trusted and that’s probably why she decided to cheat. I’m not saying what she did is right…I am telling you why she did it.

@saimab33, thanks for the sarcasm. Of course she would not want to be with me exclusively because she would rather be with some bhaigharat who wont mind her slutty behaviour.
But yeah thanks I know sensible thing is to just move on and rather get my family to find some rishta.

I suggest you leave her alone and move on. You’ll get nothing because you’re both even. You didn’t commit to her, did you? If you didn’t, she is free to date anyone she wants.

[parisbynight]

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hey hey guys...are you saying that a cheater and a non cheater are at the same level just because both of them had s** before marriage anyway?

**OP is extremely wrong in contempling revenge and doing that would make him as bad as the girl, **but can we blame him to be angry and call her names for cheating on him?

Ignore the fact that they both had physical relationship before marriage, that is another story. But one was seeking marriage at some point and was loyal whereas one was having an affair behind partner back.

there is a big difference between someone who sleeps with a partner and a person who sleeps with multiple partners at the same time.

I really dont see how the guy deserved to be cheated on? No one deserved to be cheated on. It's not like he was going out with her while she was married.

It's funny how people bring the religious matter only when it suits them.

if this was a thread about a girl falling pregnant before marriage and cursing her bf who left her, no one would have cursed her for being as bad as the guy and blaming her for not being an angel thus deserving what happened to her.

[amber19]

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This whole situation is ridiculous.
If you already know she's cheating on you - why waste your time and energy on her? You already have zero trust in this relationship and marriage is no joke. Even if you married her "out of revenge" and divorced her later, why ruin your own life? Divorces and marriages don't come cheap you know, not to mention involving two unsuspecting families into the mix. It's just stupidity. The best revenge is just to forget it and move on. Don't stoop to someone else's level.

Also, if you are going to continue to use her as a "sex buddy" then be prepared to share with all the other guys she might have been with. This is completely unhealthy and also dangerious for you to even consider. Why take the risk with so many STD's out there? You don't know enough about this girl apparently and you don't trust her. Your just angry you got played but by sticking around you're just wasting time.

Another thing - virgin women don't all bleed. I don't understand how this myth even got started. The actual stats on this are less than 50% of girls actually do. So that's not even a way to contemplate on a girl's virginity. If you can't take her word for it and believe it, then move on. This relationship is dead.

[StrangeOne]

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Very creepy that you think she owed her virginity to you.

[Deeba1234]

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This whole situation is ridiculous. If you already know she's cheating on you - why waste your time and energy on her? You already have zero trust in this relationship and marriage is no joke. Even if you married her "out of revenge" and divorced her later, why ruin your own life? Divorces and marriages don't come cheap you know, not to mention involving two unsuspecting families into the mix. It's just stupidity. The best revenge is just to forget it and move on. Don't stoop to someone else's level.

Also, if you are going to continue to use her as a "sex buddy" then be prepared to share with all the other guys she might have been with. This is completely unhealthy and also dangerious for you to even consider. Why take the risk with so many STD's out there? You don't know enough about this girl apparently and you don't trust her. Your just angry you got played but by sticking around you're just wasting time.

Another thing - virgin women don't all bleed. I don't understand how this myth even got started. The actual stats on this are less than 50% of girls actually do. So that's not even a way to contemplate on a girl's virginity. If you can't take her word for it and believe it, then move on. This relationship is dead.

Considering the apparent proof of her sleeping around is lying about phone calls (bad in itself but not really proof unless I missed something?) it's not surprising the OP is equating her lack of bleeding to not being a virgin.. Too much craziness, paranoia and double-standards here.. She slept with him before marriage so the assumption is she's sleeping with others and that makes her a sl*t? The thought that she may have slept with her ex-husband bothered him so much yet he happily did it himself with her without marriage? This is more about possessiveness than morals imo

I'm assuming the OP himself was not that practising as he was ok with a sexual relationship so what's the difference? As someone else said why does she "owe" him virginity?

[mimi7]

Ladies and guys please read, cheating gf

@parisbynight no one knows if she is actually sleeping with the other men or only chatting to them on her phone.

And OP is even considering to use her as a 'sex buddy' hardly makes him any more innocent than the girl. If he actually goes along with that plan and then marries someone else just makes him as bad as the girl tbh. I'm sorry but they're both just as bad as each other like I said before. Maybe they should both get married because I think they deserve each other. Yeah she might be a liar and a cheat sorry but the OP doesn't sound any better by the looks of things he just seems like a stalker.

[Paheli00]

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@parisbynight

**OP is extremely wrong in contempling revenge and doing that would make him as bad as the girl, **but can we blame him to be angry and call her names for cheating on him?

Exactly what did he write on his post that makes it crystal-clear that the girl is cheating on him? In fact, he wrote that she has told him to move on with marriage b/c she/her parents have held off other rishtas b/c of him!

Read the gems from his below:

@billucdnboy

I think she got too close because I’m from abroad, family fairly well off, and she wanted like marriage with me etc.

Before all this she had told me the khusra guy who married her, never touched her in any of her private parts, I made her swear on different people, things and she did. I hesitantly believed her back then but heck even if he was Khusra, he would’ve played with her now that I think about it. She has told me she never had sex with anyone else, after all her lies I am 99.99% certain she has ****ed other guys.

1. He went to Pakistan, and started a physical relationship with a girl and obviously led her to believe that he had feelings for her if she’s asking for marriage. Yet he’s accusing her of being a passport chaser/gold-digger b/c he’s from the US and his family is well-off. Any logical reasons given for these conclusions? Nope.

2. What type of man asks a divorced woman DETAILS of her sexual activities with her ex-husband?! How sick/disgusting is that?! She said her first marriage ended b/c the guy could not consummate the marriage…and that should have been it. Yet this guy went on to ask details on whether or not her HUSBAND as that time touched her in her private parts and made her swear her answers?! Just think about that. Even IF she lied about that…so what?! What right does ANYONE have to expect this girl to share such intimate details from her 1st marriage? If the idea that she was touched/played with/has $ex with her 1st husband bothers OP this much….then he should’ve stayed away from her from day 1 b/c he knew she was a divorcee.

3. OP thinks that she is talking on the phone with other guys. His belief is based on the fact that her phone line is busy when another guy’s phone line is busy. Again, sit and think about that logic. And based on this, he has moved on to labeling her as a liar, cheater, and a sl*t.

4. The fact that OP even considered marrying her to teach her a lesson shows how selfish and narcissistic he is. For him to not consider how her family and even his own family would feel about this “idea” speaks volumes about is ability to put himself in other peoples shoes.

Frankly we can’t blame OP for any of this b/c he seems to have serious psychological issues including, but not limited to, paranoia and OCD.

[Siren]

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The fact that you feel you need to constantly keep tabs on her or "trick" her into letting you access her phone records, clearly means you two have a severely dysfunctional relationship.
Great idea about the marriage/divorce thing though. You go right ahead and marry her. You two clearly deserve each other. I'm sure you'll make lovely dysfunctional babies.

[queen_24]

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Bohattt time hay bhaaai!!! Lol

[Reha]

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@Deeba1234

**Considering the apparent proof of her sleeping around is lying about phone calls **(bad in itself but not really proof unless I missed something?) it’s not surprising the OP is equating her lack of bleeding to not being a virgin.. Too much craziness, paranoia and double-standards here.. She slept with him before marriage so the assumption is she’s sleeping with others and that makes her a sl*t? The thought that she may have slept with her ex-husband bothered him so much yet he happily did it himself with her without marriage? This is more about possessiveness than morals imo

These points indicate OP pushed her away himself.

@Paheli00

2. What type of man asks a divorced woman DETAILS of her sexual activities with her ex-husband?! How sick/disgusting is that?! She said her first marriage ended b/c the guy could not consummate the marriage…and that should have been it. Yet this guy went on to ask details on whether or not her HUSBAND as that time touched her in her private parts and made her swear her answers?! Just think about that. Even IF she lied about that…so what?! What right does ANYONE have to expect this girl to share such intimate details from her 1st marriage? If the idea that she was touched/played with/has $ex with her 1st husband bothers OP this much….then he should’ve stayed away from her from day 1 b/c he knew she was a divorcee.

3. OP thinks that she is talking on the phone with other guys. His belief is based on the fact that her phone line is busy when another guy’s phone line is busy. Again, sit and think about that logic. And based on this, he has moved on to labeling her as a liar, cheater, and a sl*t.

4. The fact that OP even considered marrying her to teach her a lesson shows how selfish and narcissistic he is. For him to not consider how her family and even his own family would feel about this “idea” speaks volumes about is ability to put himself in other peoples shoes.

Frankly we can’t blame OP for any of this b/c he seems to have serious psychological issues including, but not limited to, paranoia and OCD.

I just find it so hard to believe this girl stayed with the OP after he put her through that.

OP, she did not cheat on you. You were never married to her.

She probably led you on but since this relationship was going nowhere, she decided to look around and talk to other people. There’s nothing slutty about that. In fact, I’d say it was coming.

[Iconoclast]

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Ask her to resign as your gf.

[X2]

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I think you should marry the alleged Khusra. I mean the ending has to do justice to such a screwed up story and thinking.

[ekumunng]

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*Yeh jeena bhi koi jeena hai...

GS pe trolling ko sehna hai!*

[Ladyinblack]

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I don't understand why people find it so difficult to move on.