Sorry, this is going to be like a long essay but I hope you guys go through it and give me some suggestions on like how to confront this problem. Basically Im from America and few years back I went to Pakistan where my family lives and met this girl or woman who you can say is our relatives. We both in 20s. She had recently gotten divorced from very brief marriage like less than a month because the guy allegedly was khusra ( as in like incapable of sex), she and her family say they did not know of this until after the marriage ofcourse. Even other people suspect the guy is probably khusra( sex wise only). Apparently it is still the guy’s family who divorced her. There may have been other causes but I do not know.
After a while since we both had lot of interaction with each other (live in close proximity, familes know each other), I got her number , we became friends etc. It didn’t take long to start talking on phone regularly, seeing each other, and having sex regularly. I had two more visits to Pakistan in which time we kept seeing each other. I think she got too close because I’m from abroad, family fairly well off, and she wanted like marriage with me etc.
Fast farward to it now I’m in US, having some issues until then I cannot go back, although we have been talking regularly, recently she has been giving me small hints and threats without saying clearly that she will contemplate another friendship/marriage if I don’t fix myself because I pressure her, I don’t give her space and and that I need to act fast for her proposal because she and her family have been holding off other proposols for her.I actually did contemplate of marrying her but I feel blessed now because I found out she is a big freaking liar and cheater.
Im currently in America, I recently tricked her into getting access to her mobile history online, I have been able to view bunch of numbers where she regularly makes calls. All this time she had told me there is no other guy besides me she talks to. Big lie because on some occaisions when her number is busy, she won’t pick up, I call one of her new lover’s number, it’s busy too. Right when she picks my call, I try his number from other line no longer busy and some DUDE picks up. It has happened few times. If I asked her after who she was talking to, she said my sister, my lady friend etc. One time I pressured her into giving me this lady friend’s number, when I called the number, no such number existed. So far there are three numbers where she talks regularly who are guys whose numbers were busy when hers was. I have made her swear on Allah, on her mother etc, and she will do it without any regard and lie about it. Im so baffled because her mother is living, how can she swear on her and freaking lie about it. Before all this she had told me the khusra guy who married her, never touched her in any of her private parts, I made her swear on different people, things and she did. I hesitantly believed her back then but heck even if he was Khusra, he would’ve played with her now that I think about it. She has told me she never had sex with anyone else, after all her lies I am 99.99% certain she has ****ed other guys. For example, When we had sex for the first time, she did not bleed, only makes me doubt her more, yet she kept saying she was virgin,
I have managed to find someone who is going to give me all her and the guys she talks to all their phone details( including complete sms) . My question is is it worth going this route or should I just forget it and move on with my life? Like I can only think finding out more about her and her lovers will do me more bad than good. Or do you guys think I should pursue with this detailed call history, sms and confront her? In the hope that she will then stop talking with them to keep me ( she after all is more interested in me for financial reasons. But then I think once a cheater always a cheater.
Or option B for me is just pretend I don’t know anything and just keep playing her, and ****ing her whenever I go back? Because she has clearly been playing and ****ing with me! Or I can take it further and eventually persue marriage with her and then divorce. This will essentially ruin her life because after being divorced twice, nobody sane will marry her again.
I will welcome all replies. I know some might criticize me for this aggressive type thinking, I will consider following a more sensible route if you believe in my situation you could truly do the same. Thanks
